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  • Allow yourself to go through the motions sooner than later. Get everything you need to out of your system, become your own closure, keep striving to be a better you.

    Often times after a bad break up where we are left with nothing but a broken heart and no real explanation. We believe we are entitled to closure in a lot of cases but the unfortunate thing is we are not. You have to find a way to give yourself peace in the situation, waiting on someone else to come around may have you waiting for something that won’t happen for years (or maybe ever)

    Don’t expect a bunch of casual flings to be the fix for your broken heart. It’s like putting a bandaid on a gun shot. It’s not to say that putting yourself out there sooner than later can’t help you move forward, but if you’re doing it for the sole purpose of trying to ease the pain dont. Give yourself time to heal properly. What goes along with this is don’t rush yourself into another relationship before you’re ready. You owe it to any future partner to give them your full attention. Speaking from the receiving side, it’s never fun building with someone only to find out residual feelings for a past love still exist that ends up damaging or ending the relationship.

    Use the time of being single to reflect on your shortcomings. We can all rant about how not s*** our exes are and what they put us through, and most if not all of it may be true. The thing is, nobody is perfect, nobody, including you, including me. Reflect on places you feel you went wrong in the relationship or that led to certain things, Grow from your mistakes and shortcomings so it isn’t repeated going forward. Try to single out habitual traits you notice among yourself that have occurred in multiple relationships (if that applies for you.)

    It’s okay to take as much time as you need to heal from a situation, there is no time limit. But always remember that you beating yourself up and not trying to progress forward won’t change what happened, it won’t make that person care any more or less about you than they did, and you only hurt yourself. Heal at your own pace but just make sure you’re making the effort to do so.

    One door may close but it sets up many more doors to open. How you decide to approach things is on you. Don’t be too hard on yourself, don’t let one person make you self destruct. The world keeps spinning rather you’re with someone or you aren’t, so just continue on working on you until you find someone deserving of your energy.

    Good luck to all struggling in their pursuit of love or fixing a broken heart. It gets better.

  • A lot of this is things I’m actually trying to tell myself that I need to follow because I’m struggling with my own situation. I need to take my own advice.

  • Lowkey wish I could cry then I feel like I could flush everything out my system, but I can’t cry at all lmao. Doing a bit better than I was doing before. End of the day, if you broke up and you ain’t heard from your ex especially in a time where people are dying, they simply didn’t care about you as much as you think. And I think that’s what has gotten me through it

  • CGod

    Lowkey wish I could cry then I feel like I could flush everything out my system, but I can’t cry at all lmao. Doing a bit better than I was doing before. End of the day, if you broke up and you ain’t heard from your ex especially in a time where people are dying, they simply didn’t care about you as much as you think. And I think that’s what has gotten me through it

    Lowkey this stung a little bit coming to that realization. She really just used my ass as comfort until this other dude popped back into her life. Like damn.

    But yeah man crying is therapeutic, I hate it sometimes because I’m overly emotional but In the long run it helps a lot

  • Nuja

    Lowkey this stung a little bit coming to that realization. She really just used my ass as comfort until this other dude popped back into her life. Like damn.

    But yeah man crying is therapeutic, I hate it sometimes because I’m overly emotional but In the long run it helps a lot

    That’s just how it is bro. You typically know how someone is but you’re just in denial and honestly we have no one else to blame ourselves. This girl straight up told me before our big fight, she would’ve stayed with me if I was Muslim and the whole year she had been saying weird stuff about me being a Christian yada yada. Low and behold, she’s begging another Christian man to wife her. End of the day, she didn’t want to really be with me and I can use this as a learning lesson for the future. I’m completely unemotional so I didn’t know how to handle being hurt at all, just came in VERY bad anger after a while. Never again.

  • CGod

    That’s just how it is bro. You typically know how someone is but you’re just in denial and honestly we have no one else to blame ourselves. This girl straight up told me before our big fight, she would’ve stayed with me if I was Muslim and the whole year she had been saying weird stuff about me being a Christian yada yada. Low and behold, she’s begging another Christian man to wife her. End of the day, she didn’t want to really be with me and I can use this as a learning lesson for the future. I’m completely unemotional so I didn’t know how to handle being hurt at all, just came in VERY bad anger after a while. Never again.

    Relatable man... usually when someone keeps re bringing up a point or throwing it in your face there is something to it. Behind every joke and sarcasm is some truth. Much the same I felt like an idiot because all the signs were in my face, all the emotional abuse I went through prior to this was happening and I was self aware and didn’t do s*** about it. Makes me hate myself for being an idiot but the important thing to tell from these situations is that you’re out of them and it can always end much worse

  • I’m allowing myself to feel all the pain and feelings but they just won’t go away. What’s the point of building something up just throw it away like it’s nothing. So much confusion, ruminating, regret

  • Nuja

    Relatable man... usually when someone keeps re bringing up a point or throwing it in your face there is something to it. Behind every joke and sarcasm is some truth. Much the same I felt like an idiot because all the signs were in my face, all the emotional abuse I went through prior to this was happening and I was self aware and didn’t do s*** about it. Makes me hate myself for being an idiot but the important thing to tell from these situations is that you’re out of them and it can always end much worse

    Man, just protect yourself. Most people show who they are early. So just make sure that’s what you want to get into. Secondly, I know in my case that she pressured me into the relationship pretty quickly and that was prob the biggest mistake. Get to know someone and test them out before getting into a relationship. Think people get into relationships too quickly and ends up screwing up

  • Half a year ago me and my ex broke up after almost 4 years

    We were insanely close and had a super cool vibe , she even talked talked me and all my mannerisms ....

    S*** definitely s***s but I can tell you time heals all pain , I still miss her but that pain is gone , what’s even worse is I knew her twitter password and found out she f***ed some dude right after

  • BigJohnsons

    Half a year ago me and my ex broke up after almost 4 years

    We were insanely close and had a super cool vibe , she even talked talked me and all my mannerisms ....

    S*** definitely s***s but I can tell you time heals all pain , I still miss her but that pain is gone , what’s even worse is I knew her twitter password and found out she f***ed some dude right after

    These girls aint s***

  • PsychnOut

    These girls aint s***

    I know breh
    Don’t think I’ll ever meet a pretty girl that’s into video games again

  • This is good advice.

    In my past breakups, I let it out. All my emotions are validated. I erase pictures, social media and numbers. I feel ought of sight and less things to remind me of the person less temptation comes around.

    Then I don’t date for months because I’m not ready to open up and let someone into my world. I also don’t do causal hookups. They leave me empty. I need to restore myself and basically defeats the purpose of getting myself together,

    Simple: Take your time

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