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  • (This is probably boring btw)

    There’s this girl I’ve been friends with a few years, we started as just friends because I was dating a girl at the time. We got really close and we talk pretty often.

    Over the past two years we’ve developed kinda weird flirty relationship she even s***ed my d*** twice.

    Ngl I recently caught feelings for her and I told her how I felt Friday night. She told me she just wasn’t into me and that she really cared about me, it was a longer message then that. I understood we had been good friends for 3-4 years before that and never caught a vibe she was into me.

    Anyway tonight we were smoking weed in the car after I got off and we kissed. We made out for like 2-3 minutes. Then right after some movie s*** happened.

    She pulled off, looked away from me and said something like “I just don’t wanna hurt you I’m sorry,” then I said “It’s okay, that kiss didn’t have any kind of feelings behind it.” Then we just sat their awkwardly for two minutes and I left. Felt exactly like some dumb s*** you’d see in a movie.

    Now I don’t know what’s going on, if she’s into me, wants to f*** or that was just some weird s***. I’m also worried it’ll f*** up our friendship

    Update:

    So Basically I sent her the text the way French worded it, she responded saying that so sweet etc. I just left her on read.

    Later today she calls me upset because she doesn't know if she still wants to leave for a month because her mom was pressing her not to. I tell her "just do what makes you happy." She ends up deciding to stay.

    She asked me to hang out tonight at the lake. I brought some weed and some drinks, we hung out in this hidden spot sitting on a rock overseeing the lake. We met up around 8, started smoking, listening to music, drinking etc. She started cuddling me, then we started kissing, she flashed me her titties and let me grab her ass. We did that and spoke for about 3 and a half hours before I had to go. But she also talked to me about me seeing other girls and s***. So idk where this is going but it's fun.

    (Part 3)

    We hung out again same as part 2 although we hung out for about 5 hours tonight. We got dinner then she saw my basketball in the car and asked to play. Then we went back to the park we were at the other night. Other then some cuddling in the car there was nothing.

    We went to the park smoked some and eventually we were making out. Except this time we got a bit more serious and was about to start s***ing my d*** but my mom kept calling me spazzing out of me to get home.

    I did notice somewhat in a change in her tone, she keeps telling me about how she wants something “real” and is tired of guys who wanna f*** around.

  • Need some Late Uncle Chip advice

  • could potentially want to f*** in the future, give her some space. she also could be into you in the future, but iont know if you should press that front too much rn. any girl who's sayin she isn't into you like that but is also s***in ur d*** is prolly a girl who's got her own rotation goin on, hence why she isn't interested in committing. that's something u should take at face value, meaning you shouldn't really look to her for a relationship rn. relationships are more fun when they really want it anyway, like they're pressin u for it, not where you're trying to talk to them about why y'all might do well with the feelings you have for her/want her to have for you

    but back to my first sentence, sounds like she'd f*** if u play ur cards right. but also some ppl have odd boundaries maybe she thinks d*** s***ing ain't intimate, but s***is does that make any sense? no, but maybe that's subjective

  • frenchpress

    could potentially want to f*** in the future, give her some space. she also could be into you in the future, but iont know if you should press that front too much rn. any girl who's sayin she isn't into you like that but is also s***in ur d*** is prolly a girl who's got her own rotation goin on, hence why she isn't interested in committing. that's something u should take at face value, meaning you shouldn't really look to her for a relationship rn. relationships are more fun when they really want it anyway, like they're pressin u for it, not where you're trying to talk to them about why y'all might do well with the feelings you have for her/want her to have for you

    but back to my first sentence, sounds like she'd f*** if u play ur cards right. but also some ppl have odd boundaries maybe she thinks d*** s***ing ain't intimate, but s***is does that make any sense? no, but maybe that's subjective

    She's leaving for like a month Thursday, so I guess it don't matter much anyway.

    I'm guessing I could f*** if I really wanted but also she acted awkward asf after our kiss which threw me off. Since we've kissed b4 and she's s***ed my d*** before too.

    Don't know what trigged it but I caught feelings hard for this chick, I didn't beg her to date me just told her how I felt and she turned me down. I have been enjoying single life ever since I broke up with my last girl.

  • dam i wish i had friends that smd every now and then congrats op

  • Debating about sending her a message tonight or tomorrow morning saying that "I don't want things to be awkward between us, you're a really good friend to me" or some s*** like that.

    Idk because I care about having her friendship and don't wanna lose it because we were friends before i ever liked her but I also have feelings for her.

  • Gladrick

    dam i wish i had friends that smd every now and then congrats op

    We have a weird relationship that's hella flirty I can't explain it well

  • Cudderwalks
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    (This is probably boring btw)

    There’s this girl I’ve been friends with a few years, we started as just friends because I was dating a girl at the time. We got really close and we talk pretty often.

    Over the past two years we’ve developed kinda weird flirty relationship she even s***ed my d*** twice.

    Ngl I recently caught feelings for her and I told her how I felt Friday night. She told me she just wasn’t into me and that she really cared about me, it was a longer message then that. I understood we had been good friends for 3-4 years before that and never caught a vibe she was into me.

    Anyway tonight we were smoking weed in the car after I got off and we kissed. We made out for like 2-3 minutes. Then right after some movie s*** happened.

    She pulled off, looked away from me and said something like “I just don’t wanna hurt you I’m sorry,” then I said “It’s okay, that kiss didn’t have any kind of feelings behind it.” Then we just sat their awkwardly for two minutes and I left. Felt exactly like some dumb s*** you’d see in a movie.

    Now I don’t know what’s going on, if she’s into me, wants to f*** or that was just some weird s***. I’m also worried it’ll f*** up our friendship

    Update:

    So Basically I sent her the text the way French worded it, she responded saying that so sweet etc. I just left her on read.

    Later today she calls me upset because she doesn't know if she still wants to leave for a month because her mom was pressing her not to. I tell her "just do what makes you happy." She ends up deciding to stay.

    She asked me to hang out tonight at the lake. I brought some weed and some drinks, we hung out in this hidden spot sitting on a rock overseeing the lake. We met up around 8, started smoking, listening to music, drinking etc. She started cuddling me, then we started kissing, she flashed me her titties and let me grab her ass. We did that and spoke for about 3 and a half hours before I had to go. But she also talked to me about me seeing other girls and s***. So idk where this is going but it's fun.

    (Part 3)

    We hung out again same as part 2 although we hung out for about 5 hours tonight. We got dinner then she saw my basketball in the car and asked to play. Then we went back to the park we were at the other night. Other then some cuddling in the car there was nothing.

    We went to the park smoked some and eventually we were making out. Except this time we got a bit more serious and was about to start s***ing my d*** but my mom kept calling me spazzing out of me to get home.

    I did notice somewhat in a change in her tone, she keeps telling me about how she wants something “real” and is tired of guys who wanna f*** around.

    it sounds like fwb type vive if i were you i would do it not to f*** up the friend ship

  • Cudderwalks

    Debating about sending her a message tonight or tomorrow morning saying that "I don't want things to be awkward between us, you're a really good friend to me" or some s*** like that.

    Idk because I care about having her friendship and don't wanna lose it because we were friends before i ever liked her but I also have feelings for her.

    def not tonite, go for somethin tmo that just reflects how she's leaving; i wouldn't bring up the awkwardness if i were you, as that'd only remind both of you of it. if you can show her that you can carry on normally with her after an awkward encounter, it'd not only help her be able to do the same, but she also may respect u more because ur not dwelling on that biz.

    so keep your message cool-headed ig is what i'm sayin. espc since this may be one of the last impressions she has of you; and even if her impression is one of confusion (e.g. why did this dude have this kinda-nice-kinda-weird event with me and then text me afterwards as if everything was normal?), that's better than one where she just thinks of u as someone who caught feelings n fumbled w his words & then later didn't let go of such

    ig i'm kinda speaking part of a colder game here, and maybe ur relationship w this woman is different such that what i'm saying isn't all that applicable, but i think, assuming the awkwardness you speak of wasn't totally engrossing cringe-inducing damn-my-view-of-this-dude-is-totally-changed (which it probably wasn't if y'all were making out beforehand), it'd be better for u to keep the focus on her leaving n sayin goodbye instead of trying to save face from the other nite. just assume u don't need to save face, keep the cool
    what ya think

  • Cudderwalks

    We have a weird relationship that's hella flirty I can't explain it well

    i have plenty of gorgeous male friends who flirt with me and I don't really think anything of it. some people are just friendly like that, so you have to get out of your emotions and keep things platonic or stop dealing with her all together,

  • frenchpress

    def not tonite, go for somethin tmo that just reflects how she's leaving; i wouldn't bring up the awkwardness if i were you, as that'd only remind both of you of it. if you can show her that you can carry on normally with her after an awkward encounter, it'd not only help her be able to do the same, but she also may respect u more because ur not dwelling on that biz.

    so keep your message cool-headed ig is what i'm sayin. espc since this may be one of the last impressions she has of you; and even if her impression is one of confusion (e.g. why did this dude have this kinda-nice-kinda-weird event with me and then text me afterwards as if everything was normal?), that's better than one where she just thinks of u as someone who caught feelings n fumbled w his words & then later didn't let go of such

    ig i'm kinda speaking part of a colder game here, and maybe ur relationship w this woman is different such that what i'm saying isn't all that applicable, but i think, assuming the awkwardness you speak of wasn't totally engrossing cringe-inducing damn-my-view-of-this-dude-is-totally-changed (which it probably wasn't if y'all were making out beforehand), it'd be better for u to keep the focus on her leaving n sayin goodbye instead of trying to save face from the other nite. just assume u don't need to save face, keep the cool
    what ya think

    I think you're probably right, only reason I thought of bringing it up is because she had some guy do something similar try to kiss her and she never fwed after.

    But we also made out for several minutes and so maybe it's different since she seemed to atleast kind've want it

  • scarlet

    i have plenty of gorgeous male friends who flirt with me and I don't really think anything of it. some people are just friendly like that, so you have to get out of your emotions and keep things platonic or stop dealing with her all together,

    I'm fine with a flirty friendship with a girl, I never had feelings for her until about a month ago and we had been friends for several years.

    I'm just not sure how to move forward after we made out and she acted awkward after.

  • Cudderwalks

    I think you're probably right, only reason I thought of bringing it up is because she had some guy do something similar try to kiss her and she never fwed after.

    But we also made out for several minutes and so maybe it's different since she seemed to atleast kind've want it

    i getcha bro even a year back i was tryn to explain myself perfectly to every woman i dated it was with good intention so i see where ya come from, but i've found that people respond to action better than word a lot of the time. i don't think you'd want the awkwardness to come between y'all, so unless she protests your saying nothing bout it, i think the best way to not let it interfere is to act as if it isn't interfering w the relationship wish her well n all that, and her response will probably tell u what u need to know goin forward

  • also, AOC

  • frenchpress

    i getcha bro even a year back i was tryn to explain myself perfectly to every woman i dated it was with good intention so i see where ya come from, but i've found that people respond to action better than word a lot of the time. i don't think you'd want the awkwardness to come between y'all, so unless she protests your saying nothing bout it, i think the best way to not let it interfere is to act as if it isn't interfering w the relationship wish her well n all that, and her response will probably tell u what u need to know goin forward

    wise man, I'll take your advice probably gonna send her something before I goto bed so it'll be there when she wakes up

  • @frenchpress I guess you're right too, I f***ing kissed her I did the action no matter what I say how she feels tonight or tomorrow morning will be how she reacts.

  • Cudderwalks

    @frenchpress I guess you're right too, I f***ing kissed her I did the action no matter what I say how she feels tonight or tomorrow morning will be how she reacts.

    did you text her and tell her how you feel?

  • Cudderwalks

    @frenchpress I guess you're right too, I f***ing kissed her I did the action no matter what I say how she feels tonight or tomorrow morning will be how she reacts.

    big facts, one of the things i was thinkin when readin the OP was how u were glossin over how she s***ed ur d*** n y'all made out i was like bruh

    it's a pretty safe case for you honestly since she's leaving and all anyway. positive rxn? mby y'all say goodbye in person or smthn, etc etc. negative rxn? the possibility of seeing her again won't be there for a minute anyway, so story still reads like it has a handful of Ws to me; hope it goes over well

  • scarlet

    did you text her and tell her how you feel?

    When I told her I had feelings it was through a text, I was away and didn’t really plan on telling her but the moment felt right to say I did

  • frenchpress

    big facts, one of the things i was thinkin when readin the OP was how u were glossin over how she s***ed ur d*** n y'all made out i was like bruh

    it's a pretty safe case for you honestly since she's leaving and all anyway. positive rxn? mby y'all say goodbye in person or smthn, etc etc. negative rxn? the possibility of seeing her again won't be there for a minute anyway, so story still reads like it has a handful of Ws to me; hope it goes over well

    Idk the d*** s***ing wasn’t a big deal to me that’s why I skipped over it. She just volunteered to s*** my d*** randomly and I had her make out with me beforehand to get my d*** hard.

    I’m pretty sure I could get a fwb going with her pretty easily or could’ve.

    Only reason this threw me off today was how she closed up and got awkward. Then said “ I don’t want to hurt you.” Which was a few days after I told her I was into her

  • Cudderwalks

    When I told her I had feelings it was through a text, I was away and didn’t really plan on telling her but the moment felt right to say I did

    good, it's better to just be upfront about it, if she rejects you, then it's her loss!

    but anything is better than being in an uncertain flirtationship.

  • scarlet

    good, it's better to just be upfront about it, if she rejects you, then it's her loss!

    but anything is better than being in an uncertain flirtationship.

    I’m not really one to hide feelings tbh, would rather tell a girl how I feel and get rejected then never know

  • Cudderwalks

    Need some Late Uncle Chip advice

    She probably doesn’t want you to catch feelings or vice versa

    Soooooo

    still hang or whatever, she seems like a potential f*** bud in the future and you should see other women & just hang out with her whenever since y’all are cool like that

    Don’t make it such a big deal, “friends” are nice

  • Man if she already s***ed ur d*** why was she worried about a kiss

    What type of friend just s***s ur d*** lmao

  • Man shut that down with the swiftness

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