What effect did it have on you?

I suggest that you watch this movie

it didn't have an effect and truthfully I never understood the appeal of doing that

at least with d**** you feel better

And tbh you must be so well grounded to be into a relationship with someone in this situation that if you don't set your own limits the only thing that you will ended up doing is a self harm in a middle term

Seen it

I would say maybe 60% of the women I’ve dated self harmed at one point. Even more of the women I was never official with. Very few had a huge problem with it while we were dating. Scariest incident was chick I talked to who kept saying she couldn’t live without me and kept sending me pictures of her cutting saying she wasn’t going to stop if I stopped talking to her. Granted I was in HS at the time it was still a scary situation.

That’s the worst. Getting manipulated in HS and emotionally blackmailed to stay with someone is a huge red flag. I remember this one jealous ex tried getting her bros to beat me up in HS & she wanted to jump my new girl too. My cousins in the grade above f***ed them both up with me, mfs thought they’d 2v1 me and walked into a 2v4, smd.

What’s crazy is that girl tried linking me again after HS, trying to f*** or wtv. I blocked her so hard it’s crazy

D**** can be self-harm too

I’m falling for this older girl who preaches a lot of self help, expressive journal writing & advocates therapy. At first I thought it was weird (I was immature), but now, I’m like “who tf doesn’t have problems?”. At least she’s not cutting herself or abusing d****, and I find that intensely lovely about her.

She’s awesome & remarkable, and I think that’s why I’m falling for her.

nah d**** are d****

My first girl told me she would kill herself if I left her and cut herself regularly after getting into a motorcycle accident. She also began to smoke and drink around this time. She was also bulimic. She was 15 I was 16. I was scared of being responsible for her suicide (nowadays I wouldn't care) so I became as boring and unappealing as possible so she would leave me instead. I did the same thing in 2020 to a big titty BPD hoe who was legit stalking me

bpd is a true mess lol

Doing d**** with the intention to hurt/kill yourself is self-harm. If I take a bunch of pills to in an attempt to kill myself, how is this any different than using a razor.

Wildly irresponsible to claim otherwise.

The first one had BPD too. Luckily now I am dating a more emotionally mature woman

well yeah in that case... lmao but that's a suicide attempt not cutting yourself

bpd is one of those things that are just so ingrained in the person it's a losing battle lol

I mean cutting yourself is the start of a suicide attempt.

To say you can't use d**** to self harm makes no sense.

yes you can use them but just taking them doesn't mean you're self harming

cutting yourself can be the start of a suicide attempt, if you're trying to kill yourself

a balcony can be used to look off of or can be the start of a suicide attempt

No I agree just using d**** isn't self-harm.

They can become self-harm with the intention and reasoning behind it

Very big
And specially the aftermath
Even tho i did save her, i still got blamed by her mom
Even her mindgames are really suffocating

It was. A terrible experience really
A dark blurry episode in my memories, something i try to delete
Id never wish this upon anyone,the horrors

Happy she is 💯 fine
But her mom is still bein a bully
She had accused me,lied to me, lied about me, even told her daughter to stop thinking bout me and text other "guy" friends like lied to her too etc shes just been a bully fr gotta wait and shut ma mouth i guess if i ever. Wanna see her again

But i guess dis the reason this depression shadow lurking over me, amongst many other reasons

But yeah
Its rough
Specially when a crazy person is still trying to push u away..
Doesn't help digesting anything at all, makes it worse

Wasnt a partner but i had a close friend try to OD and i had to call the ambulance for her S*** was horrible

Yh my last ex of 4 years regularly cut herself and was also bulimic. Being ur girlfriends therapist is f***in trash bro that mental health s*** u gotta deal with everyday f***s u up eventually. Personally i couldnt handle that s*** anymore, i really tried tho, i loved her