i am currently trying to work on and practice my social and communication skills. been watching those self help youtube videos and re-inflamed a certain joy and need to talk to people after isolating myself for a long ass time.

i think i can be charming and interesting but my biggest issue currently is finding ways to start and open up conversation. questions are sort of my go to, the other day i texted somebody asking how they discipline children without being a d*** under the pretense that i had an impression of them being good with children. but when they replied i kinda missed the opportunity to get deeper in the conversation lol but im aware of that and would do better next time

other than that i be strugglin really hard to find something to start off with. how do yall do it?

i hear u but im a real life dumbass bro idk if i can trust myself like that lol having no thinking time is inevitable during the conversation but before i start it i always kinda feel the need to think of something way in advance and map it out

like last opening text i sent i wrote and re-wrote hours prior i even thought about which lines to text separately and which to send in one lmao

"the other day i texted somebody asking how they discipline children "

??

what?

why would you text that to someone out the blue?

do you have kids?

i was watching my lil nephew n he be gettin on my nerves n i heard them talk abt watching their nieces n nephews before

makes way more sense with context

thought you were a whole ass dad asking how to initiate contact with people

ppl on ktt used to complain bout me typing too much lol i jus left it out

so how do you initiate contact

completely dependent situationally

are you in school, do you work, do you have friends, what kind of contact are you referring to, etc

you type normal anonymously on here, im sure you do fine texting

well i have no friends as of now, work but with s***ty colleagues and the ppl im trying to talk to are twitter mutuals

its mostly for practice n stuff, i was thinking bout going on omegle as well just to practice conversation as well

im leaving for university later this year.

i walk up like i know them when i dont and just talk

whats something you would say in that situation to start

i don't.

What’s goood Slime or slimey (male or female)
How’s it goin bro what’s up with you
What’s goin on man what you up to tonight

Non platonic- I just compliment an odd feature that suprises them like eyes going well with a jacket, or her nails look nice , eyebrows etc. gotta know how to play that smooth tho or you sound like you been staring at her like

A***yzing and s***

Either i wait till a topic that i know about comes up, or i initiate with a topic that i know i can dive deeper if need be

How old are you if you don’t mind me asking g

i feel like asking whats up is hella boring and uninteresting so i never do that lmao

23

I say it with energy and use it to just flow into talking about my surroundings or what brought us into this contact that logically means something is in common between the two, and if they just no sell you then it is what it is
I’m 23 also bro, about a year and a half ago I was in your spot, and still freeze up sometime, idk if I matured or all the X**** I took just taught me to freely shoot the s*** about whatever’s on my mind without thinking these days lol

It is all about delivery and body language though if you’re trying to make a friend/non platonic friend
Also whats up slime or slimey is a bonafide hit with any woman that you know isn’t into rap culture or deep enough to get that term, automatically starts a convo

bro just say whats on your mind, thats the true you

and the truer you are to yourself the more engaged people will be just naturally, idk how it works

its like when you tell the truth everyone believes you easy
but when you try to lie people sub conciously pick up on that and are more skeptical

just be genuine and if that person doesn’t like what you’re saying or doesnt engage with you, then its just a clear answer that this person isn’t for youu

you’ll find like minded people that are just as silly and just as in their heads as you, just communicate so they know you’re out there

Maybe it’s because of my career choice or love of stand up comedy and me being a sponge but I can jump start a convo if you know what I mean energy wise, kind of like an act which sounds sociopathic but moving on, I don’t buy into all this s*** but I’ve been told I give alpha energy for some reason so something that I do does that, I think I found enthusiastic at times but also just kinda having a “to cool for anything” vibe consciously increases people approaching you. Mystique

i jus feel like im always messing up when trying to get to know people and i look it way more like a task and a skill i have to master now

How do you initiate contact? Actually make the move to talk. How to get better at it? Keep doing it, and don’t hold any expectations or ideas of how the conversation should go. Just do it, the more you do it the more wittier and charismatic you’ll become.

i hear you and all i can ever do is be myself but my problem is that sometimes ill just genuinely not have anyhing in mind to start off a conversation with

and truth be told i am sure there simply are a few ways to initiate an exchange that will be more likely to be successful than others and i need pointers on those 📝