what are some ways you start a dialogue

DON’T OVERTHINK ANYTHING OP. If you take anything from this thread, please listen to this.

if you don’t have anything to say, don’t even force it. if you feel like shooting the s*** with someone, just shoot the s***. most people are usually receptive. just find out what works for you and repeat.

I did door to door and sales in general to learn social skills. Obviously not in covid.

But it helped a tremendous amount when I did

Idk man, just do it. Sometimes it may feel more natural than others but you just gotta do it when it makes sense

just sat and talked with someone new today tbh & she was chill

drop your shoulder and drive into the defense with your off hand closest to the defender while the ball is in your far side hand

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i struggle wit this too

i don’t know how to start off convos just out of nowhere, i get worried i’ll be perceived as a weirdo

honestly be yourself, and realize that rejection is not that bad and that it gets exponentially easier the more it happens.

Walk up to them like this

If you’re at a bar ask shawty what she drinkin on. Then ask her what her favorite cocktails are. You can talk about something you like, maybe order it and let her try it if she never had it.

If shawty got a nice ass fit, compliment the kicks or the pants or shirt she got on, ask her where she got it from, etc.

Ask shawty does she come here often, what’s other spots she likes.

You basically just gonna do small talk, and it’s really not what you say it’s how you say it. Always try to up the energy, be happy and charismatic, and happy go lucky. Don’t expect to get a number, don’t expect to get rejected, just try to enjoy the time and company that person is giving you if the vibe is right and everything else will fall into place.

Truth of the matter is, if you’re average to half decent looking you’ll be taking to a lot of girls before you score a number.

Oh and make sure you talk to everyone, the guys chillin by they self, if they got on some nice kicks compliment them. Talk to the bartender, try to BE the moment instead of waiting for it. If you talk to everyone in the bar, guy or girl with the intent of having a good time you’ll pull a lot more coochie and guy friends in general than just hounding the chicks

what were some ways you opened up with

does it really

sometimes its that but most of the time i genuinely just dont even know wtf to say

Depends on what I was selling. But it's mostly just a hook. Asking an easy question, mentioning something about someone/ complementing them. But that was to learn now it's more organic.

I've been marketing on instagram in france to try and build a connection in the music scene there. I've just been copy and pasting what the first dude messaged me to initialize conversation online lmao. "Salut".

Just keep it simple and don't take it too personally it's not as serious as you would think. The more you do it the easier it gets. That's what door knocking / cold opening a ton teaches you.

Bruh, just talk. You mfs built different

Your over complicating it

Like Nike said 'Just Do It'

getting clowned but not posting practical examples

humor is one of the better ways imo (but if you're not confident that works for you don't go that route lol)

also knowing someone in common (a mutual) with a group of people is good

mhhhhh

i used to be ASS at starting convos. i would rather just not say anything and sit in awkward silence than do smalltalk. i hated it. but nowadays i actually prefer talking first and initiating smalltalk because it lets me have control over the conversation.

smalltalk let’s you notice if the other person is up for a deeper convo or not. if everything goes perfect, you’ll have the other person asking you stuff as well, but that won’t always happen and that’s okay. like ppl said, go into every convo with no intentions at all. neither good nor bad. that’s the key for real.

when i used to be a bum i downloaded tinder and just said the first thing that got to my mind. i didn’t care about the outcome. negative or positive, it didn’t bother me cause i was just tryna get better at convos. i think that’s the first thing u need to do. get rid of expectations and shoot.

once i got comfortable i found out what type of person i am. i’m a very playful guy who jokes a lot, so i use that to my advantage. if you’re the shy type who just likes to get into deep convos, then do that but realize not everyone gonna be on that type of time. that doesn’t mean ur personality sucks it just means it was (at that time) not compatible with the person you’re talking to. there’s countless times where i jokingly “insulted” a shawty way too soon, and she didn’t f*** with it. your choice is to either set the record straight with her or just move on and find someone else to talk to and not have it impact your own view of yourself. that’s the key to all of this. realizing not every convo is gonna go great and being okay with it. my way of convo is hella risky, so i learned it the hard way. but you don’t necessarily have to. you can ease into it by talking to cashiers even if it’s just two sentences. do that every day and you’ll notice it gets easier the more u talk. no matter how dumb it sounds or feels, just talk. hope this helps you a bit bruh u got this if you really put the effort in