on one hand, it kinda ruins peoples nights who are around you. bc you decided to get on your soapbox and get emotional about something and now s***s just awkward for everyone

but on the other hand, if you really feel something, and act on it, i think thats dope too? like f*** this, i know the consequences and repercussions, but i really feel like acting out rn

idk. i had a smalllllll argument with a friend today who literally gives me 'constructive' criticism for EVERYTHING i do bc i allowed him too in the past. I called him out, but it kinda made things awk for people around me and i feel like i look like the bad person now.

what do ya'll think.

i guess we can make this about will/oscars too

i feel like being 'numb' is more societally accepted but thats kinda whack

Being real is good 👍 but don't be whiny /fragile

ty for your reply

can you please define being 'whiny/fragile'

like i'd imagine you mean sensitive but sometimes ppl let you talk crazy about them for a long time and than snap

is that their fault for allowing it for so long or the other person for not being considerate enough ?

This really depends on how you gauge and define what is acting emotionally or not, its an extremely broad question that is very hard to answer

true

If I had to answer based off my idea of what I consider acting emotional, which is speaking and acting off of hollow and unfounded moral impulses without thinking critically about things, then that can be very annoying

there’s a time and place for that. Doing it all the time waters down the power and significance of it. Nobody is gonna want that person around them. It’s a chore

Generally I’d rather take a deep breath and think. I will not to let my emotions get the best of me & override my thoughts and actual intentions. That’s never been helpful.

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You definitely have to set boundaries that's true, good friends will respect them too.

When I say whiny its about going oh poor me anytime there is anything inconvenient. Being fragile is not being able to take any kind of teasing/criticism unless it's put in the softest words possible.

I mean it depends, there's negative emotional which gets people killed over dumb s*** or just causes trouble in general. Acting emotionally over s*** that shouldn't get such a reaction is always bad I'd say.

Then there's positive emotional like crying or positive emotions to share and spread with those around you.

There's also the ability for people to control their emotions, reel it in and take a calmer approach or observation of things. Like your story about your friend, could you have handled it better? Instead of calling him out in front of other friends, you could've taken them to the side and talked to them in private, just to not make it awkward for everyone else in the room. It's probably not a big deal either way tho so it likely doesn't matter too much.

I have respect for people that act emotionally because for whatever reason in western culture everyone is wickedly cold and unresponsive in some grand gesture to seem poised.

Acting "cool" seems dehumanizing, like we have a wide range of emotions.

Can’t fw people who let their emotions win over logic and common sense

You can be emotional. Nothing wrong with that. Just don’t be impulsive along with it. Think before you do things.

Nah its not cool its weak

Be rational

Fellas is it gay to express any emotions besides anger 😡 and happiness 😆?

Fax in the west expressing emotion looked down upon a lot more than others

My Ethiopian fellas fr drama queens/kings compared to western mfs

It's just about reading the situation. I think if everybody's chillin and it's not something crazy disrespectful you handle it in private. If there were strangers around then you were kind of wrong because his intention was to be helpful and you made him look crazy in front of people. If you were just with your friend group then tell that nigga he's not Dr. Phil and to leave you the f*** alone with zero regrets. And if your friends don't want you to speak on how you're feeling, then those aren't your friends. They're people you share common interests with that want easy, comfortable socialization.

Gay means happy, so even happiness is kinda sus Anger and hunger are the only acceptable emotions for a man to show

Just be yourself. Thats cool.

Not unless you’re in an artistic place. No one wants to appease you.

I’m happy my circles and friends can be very open and emotionally honest with each other

Def got some friends that just look at you like if you bring up any emotions tho lol

Depends on the people you surround yourself with

isnt the meaning of cool pretty much acting calm and composed

If ur throwing tantrum best believe you getting left behind