Occasionally I see people in this sxn talk down about their social circles because they don't feel they have enough friends or that the ones they have are fraudulent.

I want to encourage everyone who feels like their circle fell off with the pandemic and are taking it personally to focus on what's left and to re-evaluate what it means to be a friend to someone.

Honestly I've been pretty bad at keeping up with people this past year because I've been depressed and unmotivated when there's nowhere to go. But now that I'm fully vaccinated, I'm starting to reconnect with old friends and cutting out the people I was afraid to lose during the pandemic because I didn't want to be alone.

I'll tell you right now: it's better to be alone and work on yourself than to have toxic people weighing you down. And if you're lucky enough to have a couple real ones around, you're doing great.

Yesterday I went to a baseball game with a friend of mine. We've known each other like 4 years. This guy is one of those really hardheaded wannabe alpha libertarian types who hates anyone suggesting he's wrong and feels "controlled" by "fascist behavior" all the time. He's been a pain in the ass the whole pandemic and buys into a lot of nonsense just because.

A few innings into the game, this other guy starts b****ing at us about social distancing because we were too close to him or something and my friend starts making smartass remarks about people policing him and they jawed for a while. I got up and went to another seat that was open because I was legit just trying to enjoy my first baseball game in 2 years. I didn't give a damn either way about their fight.

Both people involved in this fight were at least 35 btw. Sad af.

While we were leaving, he picks up another fight with this guy on the way out, calls him a f***ing c*** and tells him to come at him, I'm standing right there like wtf? We leave, he admits the last bit was all him and that he was just feeling charged up. I'm like whatever, talk to you later. No issue.

Today, he texts me about it and starts blaming me for the fight and ruining his good time because I didn't have his back. He says I'm scared of everything (I have an anxiety disorder that I've had to take meds for) and that I'm a f***ing p****. Of course, he says all this over text instead of to my face, where things were all good.

I told him to stop being afraid of vaccines and have a nice life.

He kept going for a while so I have him blocked until he cools off. But I'll probably just leave him blocked. I feel way better not having to worry about his temperamental s***.

And here's the thing, I had a friend over last night that I hadn't seen since Christmas. It was super chill, had a great conversation about all kinds of s***, everything was great. It made me hopeful for the future and I felt better having them around.

All of this good and bad s*** happened in 24 hours and it really opened my eyes. If someone isn't feeding you, financing you or f***ing you and they're getting your blood pressure up over nonsense, just cut them off.

If you place value in yourself, you'll attract better people. And if that means only having a person or two to count on, that's totally fine. Social media has convinced people that a larger social circle suggests a better one, but that's not true at all.

I lost a fixture of my social circle today but I gained a little self respect and peace of mind I won tbh

Actually social media pushes this whole small circle independent type s***. Anyways, most of what you’ve stated it just common sense. You can have 100 to 10 friends and still be great as long as all of them are valuable to you and you both benefit each other in a positive way. If you over the age of 20 and still dealing wit toxic friends and tolerating it that’s on you and you need to rearrange yourself or maybe you’re the problem. You are what you attract

Damn i really wanted to help op too
but i aint readin all that champ

I agree with the title

Thanks though I'm doing fine

I see social media encouraging people to collect "friends" they don't really connect with that often as a measure of social standing. This is why the pandemic revealed so many relationships to be fraudulent. It's discouraging on the surface, but what do you expect when the communication taking place is so shallow?

But yeah, you ought to get what you put into relationships. If it's toxic or one sided, moving on should be common sense. Sadly, I see friends and family members holding on to relationships out of a fear of loneliness or a sense of obligation.

facts

only issue is if they aren't free means i have no one to do with stuff with, thats why trying link up with ktt sydney fam

like with concerts none of my 3 friends like lots of the music i like so i have to go myself

Thankful for the ones around me

Nah this is real. As you get older you really keep a very small close group of friends. Probably like three of them who always hold you down and you hold them down. The kinda cats you would let be a godfather or godmother of your kid(s). Those are the kinda friends you yourself might call a brother/sister. The bonds are always might tighter if it's with two or three people.

That happens more as you get older, at least for me it did. I go alone more often than not at this point. Seems like people are afraid of it at first but it's more enjoyable in some ways.

I've also met some really cool people at concerts and festivals. You don't HAVE to be social, but it's definitely possible.

Keep your circle tight

You can have those casual friends but don’t depend on them for emotional support

yea i am going to my first concert since pandemic believe or not i am seeing genesis owusu no one my friends wanted come

Bump my Genesis Owusu thread after you do, I want to hear how it went

Glad he's touring again, I want to go

will do

should be good are restrictions gone