Men: Allow yourself to be emotionally vulnerable

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  • It’s 2020. Time to break the shackles in your mind and the conditioning that it’s not okay for you to have or show emotions.

    For the majority I acknowledge this is easier said than done and that’s fine! Be patient with yourself.

    Being emotionally vulnerable doesn’t mean you’re weak. Trying to be a hardened person keeping everything inside will only damage you in the long run when you aren’t able to express yourself in a healthy matter and all those emotions come pouring out at once in an overwhelming way.

    Allowing yourself to be able to express your emotions in a healthy way won’t only just help you on a personal level it will help you build and sustain the relationships in your life better.

    Being empathetic is a beautiful thing, being able to actually feel and show love is a beautiful thing. You enjoy the company of a significant other so much more once you drop the facade of being heartless or only in it for lust sake.

    Rather you allow yourself to feel things and open up or not won’t change the fact you’ll inevitably feel pain. The difference is how efficiently you can cope with that pain.

    For your own health and for the sake of your relationships, allow yourself to be more vulnerable, allow yourself to open up, allow yourself to express and feel. You owe yourself that much to not leave it all bottled in or repress pain in the back of your mind until it’s too overwhelming to do so anymore.

  • I’m going through it currently myself sl I get that completely.

    I just see it as id rather myself be emotionally open about it and carry the pain the way I am now expressing it and showing I’m vulnerable than keeping it inside pretending I’m okay until it erupts

    Love is some crazy unexplainable s*** regardless if you’re a man or a woman. We will never truly have the answers to the craziness of it all, but the least we can do is allow ourselves to be vulnerable enough to not let the negative aspects consume us in silence from the inside

  • Nuja

    I’m going through it currently myself sl I get that completely.

    I just see it as id rather myself be emotionally open about it and carry the pain the way I am now expressing it and showing I’m vulnerable than keeping it inside pretending I’m okay until it erupts

    Love is some crazy unexplainable s*** regardless if you’re a man or a woman. We will never truly have the answers to the craziness of it all, but the least we can do is allow ourselves to be vulnerable enough to not let the negative aspects consume us in silence from the inside

    deleted cause I felt like thread was gonna blow up and I didn't want the notifcations lol

    well said though

  • People say this all the time and then once you actually open up they just use it against you.

  • Only open up to the right people like your close family.

    I would never open up too much or show myself vulnerable to my girlfriend.

    Need to keep that superhero cap on for her, If I take it off she might see me different.

  • Emotionally unavailable gang we in this

  • Girls will be okay with you showing certain emotions like empathy or grief, but anything that even hints at you having insecurities will make most of em lose attraction to you.

    It's tuff but eet eez wat eet eez

  • NOPE

  • Never been emotionally vulnerable in my life before, so obviously I would have some sort of difficulty expressing myself while looking like a jackass.

  • Yeaaaa idk if I can do that one chief.

  • no

  • Depends on the person

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    Girls will take advantage of you, if you do this tho

  • Holy s*** the members of this forum have the most backward and misogynistic ideas about women

  • gbluecheez

    Holy s*** the members of this forum have the most backward and misogynistic ideas about women

    I’m not emotionally open to my father, my mother, let alone a woman.

  • It’s okay to show emotion but you’re B****MADE if you cry in front of your girl

  • Nuja

    It’s 2020. Time to break the shackles in your mind and the conditioning that it’s not okay for you to have or show emotions.

    For the majority I acknowledge this is easier said than done and that’s fine! Be patient with yourself.

    Being emotionally vulnerable doesn’t mean you’re weak. Trying to be a hardened person keeping everything inside will only damage you in the long run when you aren’t able to express yourself in a healthy matter and all those emotions come pouring out at once in an overwhelming way.

    Allowing yourself to be able to express your emotions in a healthy way won’t only just help you on a personal level it will help you build and sustain the relationships in your life better.

    Being empathetic is a beautiful thing, being able to actually feel and show love is a beautiful thing. You enjoy the company of a significant other so much more once you drop the facade of being heartless or only in it for lust sake.

    Rather you allow yourself to feel things and open up or not won’t change the fact you’ll inevitably feel pain. The difference is how efficiently you can cope with that pain.

    For your own health and for the sake of your relationships, allow yourself to be more vulnerable, allow yourself to open up, allow yourself to express and feel. You owe yourself that much to not leave it all bottled in or repress pain in the back of your mind until it’s too overwhelming to do so anymore.

    it's hard op man. i've done so to woman before and friendships. like some in this thread have said, it can be used against you and i carry some scars from relationships and those friendships out of having a caring nature.

    now i feel the total opposite where i've let the heart harden and i'm very protective of my energy and who i'm around/give that energy to. but i know it's not me deep down and t's a constant battle. can't even let my guard down too much in my relationship with my parents

    i think i run away from conflict

  • My life can be falling apart right in front of my eyes and if she ask how am i its always "im doing great"

  • ktt poster: dont tell me what to do

  • bobby j

    It’s okay to show emotion but you’re B****MADE if you cry in front of your girl

    Please tell me you’re trolling

  • Hell nah

    Only be 50-75% emotionally vulnerable as she is

  • what

  • TOKYOFROMTHEWEST

    People say this all the time and then once you actually open up they just use it against you.

    You aren’t wrong about this but when we say people use our emotions against we have to think what does that actually mean? They mock us for showing insecurity down the road when s*** goes sour? Yes that definitely happens, but it goes and in hand with being secure in your emotions that someone throwing back at you doesn’t mean anything. And I know from personal experience this is significantly easier said than done in practicing

  • Coldheart1

    My life can be falling apart right in front of my eyes and if she ask how am i its always "im doing great"

    It shouldn’t be like this. I understand why it is for some people but you should be able to open up for your own mental health sake

  • zerofatigue

    it's hard op man. i've done so to woman before and friendships. like some in this thread have said, it can be used against you and i carry some scars from relationships and those friendships out of having a caring nature.

    now i feel the total opposite where i've let the heart harden and i'm very protective of my energy and who i'm around/give that energy to. but i know it's not me deep down and t's a constant battle. can't even let my guard down too much in my relationship with my parents

    i think i run away from conflict

    I understand this 100% it cuts deep being vulnerable to someone and them throwing that vulnerability against you. At the end of the day it’s all words, people use other’s insecurities and vulnerability against them to hurt them when they are upset. We can’t help what hurts us, but we can’t let the past actions of others hold us back either. Move with wisdom and grow always, don’t be naive enough to allow yourself to be open to just anybody, but don’t let a past experience prevent you from being able to express yourself in a healthy way.

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