are there that many woman with heavy hormonal/psychological issues or am I just attracted to the worst type of women for some reason ?
this woman I'm seeing thinks it's normal to be incredibly mean and egoist three weeks a month because of her hormones, she doesn't apologize for it and tries to gaslight me into thinking it's normal and it's the same with every other woman. i think i already know the answer but please give me the reality check I need. It's the third woman I've dated that becomes like that and at this point the gaslighting i'm a victim of is starting to take effect.
she's spending all day on her phone and I've seen her literally light up when she comes across some kind of syndrome she thinks she maybe has that would explain and justify her attitude. Sometimes she has like these moments of clarity during which she begs me never to dump her and that she's going to get better and nicer.
can't dump her because I'm in the middle of teaching her programming so that she can get a job and she needs me to pay for a really important dental appointment next month (I know but I can't just let her not get it, it would affect her quality of life forever if she misses it)
that's all, don't be too mean please I just needed to vent a little. Having period mood swings 3 weeks a month must be even more exhausting for her than it is for me tbh
I think you know this isn't sustainable and that every day you prolong it wastes your time, money, energy, patience, and general potential in life
I think you know this isn't sustainable and that every day you prolong it wastes your time, money, energy, patience, and general potential in life
if i abandon her she'll kill herself probably move back in with her emotionally abusive family. i'll condemn her
@op this is an incredibly important question in order for you to receive an answer: are you american and is the woman white
if i abandon her she'll kill herself probably move back in with her emotionally abusive family. i'll condemn her
You’re not responsible for her life
@op this is an incredibly important question in order for you to receive an answer: are you american and is the woman white
i'm an algerian living in Paris. she is french and white
You’re not responsible for her life
i feel like to a certain extent I am, I sold her dreams in a way
i'm an algerian living in Paris. she is french and white
can't give you as straight of an answer then
All women are crazy. My girlfriend is for sure. But she loves me more than life itself so it’s fine
if i abandon her she'll kill herself probably move back in with her emotionally abusive family. i'll condemn her
Thats what you tell yourself to avoid doing the harder thing. Stop that, you know nobody likes a martyr. What kind of a life does she have if her boyfriend is the only thing keeping her living, you think this is saving her? Rock bottom is necessary, it shakes people up. Sets priorities straight. She might hit hers when you leave, but you already hit yours - you're living her life for her and it sounds like you hate being around her
can't give you as straight of an answer then
damn i was kinda counting on you bro lol.
(this is Ezio with the Suge Knight avy btw)
she needs me to pay for a really important dental appointment next month (I know but I can't just let her not get it, it would affect her quality of life forever if she misses it)
You already feel remorse being with her, so are you sure you wanna do all that?
i feel like to a certain extent I am, I sold her dreams in a way
Elaborate on this though, wym
Thats what you tell yourself to avoid doing the harder thing. Stop that, you know nobody likes a martyr. What kind of a life does she have if her boyfriend is the only thing keeping her living, you think this is saving her? Rock bottom is necessary, it shakes people up. Sets priorities straight. She might hit hers when you leave, but you already hit yours - you're living her life for her and it sounds like you hate being around her
she won't even be able to touch rock bottom, her family is a nest of emotional incest bro. they manipulate their kids into being dependent and useless. but point taken
Elaborate on this though, wym
she had accepted that "she was worthless" and never challenged her family in 25 years. they all have some kind of munchausen f***ed up syndrome, they cut her wings to get her to stay mediocre and close. alcoholic family the only way she managed to get away is to follow me to Paris
i'd say she is not in that state 1/3 of the time, I feel like I can save her. It's not her fault, she had insane defense mechanisms