Like say u having a baby w someone, why does asking for verification that the baby is yours make you an a******? Like you ask, and all of a sudden you’re accusing her of cheating, or you don’t trust her or (insert something else here)

Why isn’t this just standard?

Like she know the baby is hers bc it’s literally in her, but for the other side, niggas just gotta walk on faith dawg what the hell?

Like if you talking to someone and u finna get it poppin, then ask for their latest test results, that’s not insulting at all…nigga just want some verification. What’s wrong w that?

if it’s a one night stand or a fwb nothing wrong with asking for one at all

if it’s your girl or wife i can see why some one would be offended

Because it makes you feel insulted like they don’t trust you

But eh you could take the kids by yourself and get a paternity test nothing stopping you

Tbf I don't see how you could not read it as accusing her of cheating or not trusting her

If you're asking for a paternity test it implies doubt about whether you're her only partner, if it were a standardised part of the birthing procedure I think that'd be interesting tho

In for next 70 page thread

offended at / by what? bc i wanna verify? i just don’t understand why this would be an issue

I mean if it’s a long term girlfriend or wife they’re probably under the assumption you trust them in the sense that they’re not out there f***ing other guys, so like they said I could see why they would be offended. It sort of shows a lack of trust or uncertainty. I also understand why you want to confirm that the kids are yours, though.

imo it should be a standardized part of the birthing process, im actually puzzled as to why it isn’t.

and i fw trust and love and all that, but i fw reality too

because you're accusing someone of infidelity just because you're insecure

this is a pretty open and shut case

lol im saying. op making it seem like he's the type to just randomly ask to see his girl's phone to go through her texts and DM's

so this person trusts this girl enough to go raw, trusts them enough to have a baby, but making sure the baby is yours is where s*** falls apart?

why is it a reasonable request to have someone blindly trust anyone.

what matters more, her feelings, or the next 18 years of your life and making sure that lil dude biologically yours (like ppl should be doing in the first place)

I just want confirmation!

If you trust someone enough to f*** then raw, you should also trust that they’re not f***ing anyone else raw, or anyone else period. The situation you described isn’t very specific, so if you’re talking about a long term girlfriend or wife, that level of trust should be there as well.

But like I said, I’m not really disagreeing with this either lol

don’t y’all think before y’all post

Goddess!!! What is the big deal!

y’all would say ppl insecure abt anything lmao

Inb4 Supersoaker gets paternity test results from his supervisor and puts them in the oven

Trust but verify.

I’ve already decided when I have kids I’m getting a prenatal pregnancy test.

I used to talk about having kids with my ex and told her this and she would get offended that I would think she would f*** around but that’s my stance and that’s the way it’s going to be.

this is literally textbook definition insecure lol

there should b no hesitancy about a paternity test. not in this social climate. a man's well being is on the line