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Looking under the comments of this and many other threads on twitter is some of the scariest things i have truly read with how people perceive relationships and marriage. The truth is the hardest part about dating in today’s world imo is actually learning what side of the spectrum the other person is in of this conversation

There’s women who want to be provided for 100% and expect to be maintained completely cause they will serve men with other things like they want to be seen as less

Then there’s men who believe they need to provide and control every aspect to be a “real man” and those usually being the ones with weird ego issues

I feel like it affects the black community in such a bad way when we are already fighting an uphill battle of inequality and classism yet, many are okay with making relationships unequal and sticking with a way of life that fulfills patriarchal roles and that existed when women couldn’t vote, hold jobs and looked at as house objects

it's easy for the game to tweet that cause the woman he's talking about probably still wears training bras

Lead or lose your girl in the long run. And leading often means providing for others outside of yourself.

Anybody who engages with a game tweet lost

Facts. You ever see a white guy brag about paying his girl’s bills. The thought is almost comedic.

LIFE ON ME !!! Period.

"The truth is the hardest part about dating in today’s world imo is actually learning what side of the spectrum the other person is in of this conversation"

great thought @op

Crine @ all his girl needs to do is clean, cook, and f*** for her life to be taken care of

That dvsn tweet bout relationships being transactional

they just do it without bragging

I don't mind being the provider but she has to be down to do the same incase some financial issues occur.

Imagine being tight on money and then asking your girl if she could get a part time job or cut down on spending to help but then she tells you that's not her responsibility and says you need to get a second job if it's that bad

That b**** don't love you if she thinks like that. Both people need to be able to fulfill either role imo.

He is a multimillionaire, so he can afford to do those things and not miss the money. The rest of us lower and middle class civilians, not so much.

And while I don’t think there is anything inherently wrong with wanting to cover every tab for your SO if you can afford it, they need more responsibilities than just cooking cleaning and sex. Those are chores (well, 2 for 3). All adults need more obligations than that to lead a fulfilling, satisfying life.

Then again who am I to dictate the dynamic of every relationship? That’s just how it seems to me. If they like it, I love it.

yep it’s not talked about enough

i’m black so bias but i see it a lot in black men. i saw it in my father. and what’s sad is that it not only is forced into men. but a lot of men genuinely do it out of love. but also a weird grab for power. they wanna do everything, so everything they say goes their way. it’s complex. but you’re 100% right in what ur saying op !

really like this thread

i’m actually dead that we’re having nuanced conversation about race gender and class through the game tweets

yeah cause it comes from a time when men were not believed to show love emotionally so all they had to do was provide. and this has led to power trips and abuse in households too

He must be talking about his wife... in that case y’all sharing finances so this quote still don’t make sense.

Lol, I’m not paying all that for no woman unless we are married. You out of your mind.

I ain’t never paying all that idc if we married

I'm not gonna wife a bum

my main thing is imagine not wanting double income to fund both of your futures. i understand if you got kids and one of you needs to make sure someone is home but if you tryna build a future off of one person exhausting all energy... that makes me not even want to question why it’s 2021 and we still have societal issues with other things when you still believe in an outdated system like that. especially in a time where lower middle class people are in an never ending loop

You share finances when you’re married so it’s not even like you’re paying it. There would most likely be budgeting between the funds as to what is getting paid and you live together lol.

Imagine giving somebody thay typa power over u by depending on them to pay ur bills

I dont even want my parents to pay for s*** lol

No idea how so many women still have this mindset but oh well