i need some sanity

is it normal to love someone only when they're being funny/happy and to claim you stop loving them and you hate being around them if they're sad about something ? like not extremely upset, just slightly sad. i know i'm weird so i can't trust myself on a lot of things so please even if the answer seems obvious to you i need to know

whenever i'm not super duper happy, she lashes out at me

That’s not love.

Idk about abused but it does seem this person doesnt like you and is using you

Fam if you in it just for p**** then dip

i got it. thank you guys

Love is unconditional

grow up

nah
sounds like shes insecure and cares about you, maybe she thinks that's her fault when u are upset or something
tell her that ur mood has nothing to do with her, it's some personal s***

regardless you don’t “lash out” at someone you love when you see they’re not feeling well

she sounds selfish and lame

sounds like those new agers that are scared of everything with the word 'no' on it or everything they believe it's negative

abused just means used incorrectly

op is being abused, emotionally at the very least

does she think lashing out will make you happy again when you’re feeling down?? what’s her purpose in lashing out at you? does she think telling you she stops loving you when you feel regular human emotions is going to make you happy?

whatever’s going on between you two, it isn’t healthy. i hope you find something good and real soon.

sounds like insecurity

bro that is nothing even close to love not even a little bit

trust me man she is not the one, she is not even worth your time

I mean, it's "normal" in the sense that people do that to other people all the time, but it's not OK and not something you should accept.

If you have to ask...

i don’t understand what’s going on

ask her bout it

lol wake up nigha yo ass is getting played

Aye cuh

“ i know i'm weird so i can't trust myself on a lot of things”

@op be willing to be wrong. The worst thing a person can do to themselves is give away their agency to someone else. You might be weird, not an issue, but not trusting yourself is. You will find out about yourself more effectively if you throw yourself in the fire.

Even if youre wrong, break that woman off. Cultivate yourself and then be picky about who you choose to be in your life