anyone else experience this? how do you deal with it? bow down to family or say f*** it?

wait, u guys had culture growin up?

cant say no to everything

To some extent cause my family knows I'm not religious

everyone has some kinda culture bro

bro imma get these jokes off regardless

this is the big one for me

i want my family to like me

It depends how ur parents/siblings react to it. Personally, one of my older sisters and mom turned really religious in the last decade, so while they are frustrated w my lack of faith they don't put much expectations on me. They do say some wack s*** like threaten me and say that if you head toward that path ur going to hell but idgaf. I like my background (I'm east african) and celebrate it but I can't get too deep cause of my lack of faith, but to others it's all good cause I pretend while I'm agnostic

i wish i could speak italian

besides that not really

but anyway i broke well away from my family and i don't feel bad or guilty about it at all. when they was raising my two oldest brothers (13&15yrs older than me) they were burning books because their pastor told em to, real nutjob hours. they calmed way the f*** down by the time i came around thank f*** but like, not every part of a culture needs to keep going, not every wacko tradition needs to stay alive

u gotta chart your own course

Not being able to speak ur mother tongue sucks but understanding it at the v least is good

just know theres a lot more to it and i held a lot of resentment against them despite them doing a pretty bang up job of raising me, all things considered.

Took a recent shroom trip last month for me to realize I was too focused on all the negatives and missing out on the final decades of their life. I'm a man, a strong one at that, and I can reconnect with them on my terms and enjoy all the good they have to offer. I forgave them for the s*** they f***ed up, they were always trying at least.

Visited them a few days after that trip and told them how much I loved them and how much I appreciate all they did for me and my dad almost cried. I could tell it meant a lot to him.

idk now im just rambling lmaoooo

ask your family about it

parents really have it hard

What if they're one and the same?
The ones that I do like left and don't talk to me unless its at the family gathering, yet they always say they're there if I need them. I constantly feel like I'm being the initiator and I know a part of it is opening up; it's just hard to feel like they line up with my interests or values enough for anything to carry past the love we have for each other as cousins or w/e.

Sorry for the rant. Question's rhetorical for all I care.

Genuinely nice to hear man

almost all immigrant families have a cultural disconnect from their children raised in the US

Be understanding of them and they will be more likely to be understanding of you

People who just moved to America are not prepares for how fast cultural assimilation works and that their children will be 100% American if they do not make an active effort