I’ve been working in the mental health field for about two years, and a few months ago I was assigned a new supervisor who decided I wasn’t “assertive” enough with patients and repeatedly stated that I wasn’t “man enough” for this role. From the beginning, she nitpicked everything I did and openly questioned my suitability for the field, despite my strong performance and positive feedback. She ultimately issued me a final written warning, the most severe form of discipline, for allegedly documenting suicide risk incorrectly after a patient sang a King Von song and clearly stated it was a song. Even though my documentation reflected that clarification and I had never received any prior coaching or write-ups in my career, she exaggerated the situation, treated it as suicidal ideation, and used it to justify extreme disciplinary action against me.

The situation escalated further when she instructed me to participate in ethically concerning practices, including getting into a pool with patients, visiting minor clients without their parents’ knowledge, and completing clinical documentation while I was on medically documented leave. During group supervision, she also distributed inappropriate worksheets asking staff to guess which employee watched X-rated movies, which was unrelated to clinical work and crossed professional boundaries. I reported these concerns to HR and company leadership, and nothing was done; during one HR meeting, she said, “I thought this was personal between us,” like wtf. No corrective action followed. Over time, it became clear the company had changed and chose to allow this supervisor to target and undermine me rather than step in to defend or support me.

My caseload was then restricted to a single patient after she directed the company not to assign me additional patients based on her personal bias, despite being consistently ahead on documentation and receiving outstanding feedback. I was selected as Best New Hire of 2025, yet my reputation was undermined. Last week I told them I was quitting and the company asked for a meeting.

The company owner also told me that if I were a family member and so unhappy, he would advise me to quit. He then said nothing would be done and my reports were essentially a waste of time. so I took this as a soft request and quit last week.

Now I’m like wtf why was I targeted like this?

some folk just be trippin best to keep it movin

That’s what I’m saying!!! I’m just stuck on why me of all people I actually try to do my job. There’s some employees comiting fraud and they’re getting promotions.

Psychotic situation, sorry about that op

maybe that's the problem you weren't playing their games good on you for sticking to your principles

Straight up. I was talking with another HR employee who got fired and he said she had severe issues

Maybe reach out to an attorney

Never ideal to have to find a new job, but sounds like it's for the best all things considered

Trying to make a bad work environment work will drain your soul

I actually reported her first bothering me during medical leave and the state singed an investigator ironically enough. Hope she gets fired or at least suspended.

assigned a new supervisor who decided I wasn’t “assertive” enough with patients and repeatedly stated that I wasn’t “man enough” for this role. From the beginning, she nitpicked everything I did and openly questioned my suitability for the field, despite my strong performance and positive feedback

why was I targeted like this?

Frankly, OP, some folks are just so miserable with their own lives they’ll find any reason to tear you down. It’s not fair, but it’s life. Why did they do it? Could’ve been anything: they were threatened by your hard work ethic, they felt “less than” around you, they didn’t like the way you looked, their personal life is so s*** they now have to try to ruin other people’s lives in an attempt to fill the black hole they are in.

Glad you got out of the situation, don’t blame yourself, all the s*** you mentioned in OP was truly outside of your control.

I really appreciate that… I think part of it was because I brought a new vehicle and I remember them saying how nice it looked (just an average bmw) and I didn’t think much about it. Then I also graduated from a great university, but I didn’t flaunt it or try to act different/better than anyone. so I think it was a mix of things they didn’t like.

Some people create issues to fill a void but it’s only a temporary fix. Eventually they’ll meet their match and karma will hit them back.

What typa freeky ass b****.....

Damn. Sorry dude. I work in the same field and I swear I've heard a variation of your situation on subreddits.

Where was the discrimination in that post?

Being told I wasn’t man enough

It’s crazy healthcare attracts some wild people

oak got life on hard mode man

If youre being told that by a woman its likely true

For my job I meet patients at their homes or at the office and I have never had a client or parent tell me I wasn’t assertive or man enough.m to help them or the kids.

This supervisor was literally using her own bias for what a man should be like to attack me. She even said I didn’t have a “clinical mind.”

should've manned up n smacked the b****
then asked her if she still thought u weren't MaN eNoUgH

RIP to job though, thankfuly u quit so that's on the record. Best of luck finding something better <3

Appreciate it. I have like two other jobs lined up already so I won’t be hurting too bad financially. It’s just I will miss the coworkers, they were funny af.

See, you just answered your own thread question!

And absolutely, karma always comes back to bite em man keep pushing you’ll win in the end

Scary to think shes meant to be HELPING people

Im sorry, you charted a suicide risk for a patient singing a King Von song? Lmao