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  • Dec 19, 2019

    Failed one class. Was supposed to go to a concert and even dropped hints to a person I wanted to take, although I never confirmed anything. Now I'm considering backing out because I don't deserve to go. I wanted to surprise her, so she's not expecting anything.

    I can't enjoy my time at an event if I know I messed up. That's just how I am.

    Do you punish yourself for your failures/mistakes/shortcomings? That class was hard and it was a busy time for me, but I'm not allowing myself any excuses. Think I'm gonna lay off rewarding myself until I'm on the come-up.

  • Honestly I do.

    I strive for perfection in everything I do. Causes me a lot of sadness when I fail

  • Dec 19, 2019

    yeah I punish myself through depression

  • Ellinia 🍰
    Dec 19, 2019
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    No I feel like failing is punishment enough. I just take the experience as a lesson and do better next time.

  • Dec 19, 2019

    Naaah I smoke weed and come up with a better plan

  • Dec 19, 2019
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    Ellinia

    No I feel like failing is punishment enough. I just take the experience as a lesson and do better next time.

    I get what you mean. It's different when it comes to preventable failures, though. For instance, if I worked less and managed my time better, I would have had a better chance to pass that class. It's not like this was the first time something like this happened.

  • Ellinia 🍰
    Dec 19, 2019
    coze

    I get what you mean. It's different when it comes to preventable failures, though. For instance, if I worked less and managed my time better, I would have had a better chance to pass that class. It's not like this was the first time something like this happened.

    If it's not the first time it happens does punishing yourself afterwards do anything other than making you feel like s*** even more though? Punishment should be a deterrent to not do it again. If it keeps happening I don't understand the purpose. Punishing yourself clearly doesn't solve the problem so I think looking for a new solution might be better tbh.

    Though if you can't enjoy the concert if you were to go I'd say that's a valid reason.

  • Dec 19, 2019
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    f*** no when we die we're not taking our accomplishments or failures with us enjoy your life while you still have it

  • Dec 19, 2019

    i should

  • Dec 19, 2019
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    ferris

    f*** no when we die we're not taking our accomplishments or failures with us enjoy your life while you still have it

    That's what I tell myself sometimes, but I also think I'm doing a disservice to my family and true friends if I'm living in mediocrity. Not everything is about ourselves, bro.

  • Dec 19, 2019

    I cut off one one my d***s if something doesn’t go right.

  • all you did was fail a class who cares retake it

  • Dec 19, 2019
    coze

    That's what I tell myself sometimes, but I also think I'm doing a disservice to my family and true friends if I'm living in mediocrity. Not everything is about ourselves, bro.

    you make up for it by retaking the course and making up the credit. restricting yourself from doing something that you wanted to do is not gonna bring up your gpa you're basically just having a pity party.

    i'm not saying don't care about s***. the point of "working hard" is so that you can set yourself up to relax and enjoy yourself and have good experiences in life. it sounds like you really wanted to go to this show but now you're robbing yourself of the experience for no real reason.

  • Dec 19, 2019

    No, but learn from the mistakes of that failure. How you suppose to win if you never face losses n learn from them?

  • Dec 19, 2019

    re evaluating and re focusing

    punishing failure seems redundant. failure itself is punishment for lack of preparation.

  • Dec 19, 2019

    Sometimes I physically punish myself

  • Dec 19, 2019

    yes

  • Dec 19, 2019

    lots of sad thoughts crush my soul when i f*** up, causing me great mental agony.

  • Dec 19, 2019

    Yeah no KTT for a week if I don’t get my grades up soon

  • Dec 19, 2019

    Yes 100%