Sometimes I feel energetic and hit up a friend to go hang out. Everything is good until I start regretting hitting him/her up to hang out. I'm a man of my word, so I follow through with it instead of canceling plans.

There are several things that might happen as I hang out with the person:

• I feel like I can't be myself, so I get uncomfortable.
• I feel like the person knows too much about my past and judges my former self even though I've changed.
• I'm worried the hangout is too boring for the other person.
• I feel a sense of guilt about hanging out for leisure when I could be doing something productive.

This is how I know I'm a true introvert. I would have very much rather stayed home and spent my time that way. Dates are an exception to this. I never feel this way after a date.

this why I only hangout with friends of mine...

are you hanging with people you dont know or something?

They literally said that man 😐

well why is OP feeling like that if he's with friends, but not with dates. Shouldn't it be the other way around?

Sounds like social anxiety Tbh.

I hit up a friend of mine to study or do homework. I used to hang out with him consistently back in the day, but things changed. We both are trying to make it in the same field. It just isn't the same anymore since everything feels a lot more "mature" now. I used to mess around a lot and had no problem making jokes, but now I feel embarrassed of how immature I used to be. I'm just not the same person anymore, and it feels awkward knowing that he knows how I was.

nigga you post on ktt

Real post tbh. I feel everything from OP apart from the last point

That's anxiety not introversion.

Exactly why i dont have friends. S***s exhausting and a waste of energy

So u take urself a but too srsly. No point in that lol

4 and 5 are my best reasons whenever i start thinking about it except for something ¨productive¨ im just tryna play video games or read tbh

If they’re your real friends, you shouldn’t feel any type of anxiety when you hangout w/ them. Are they your friends, or do you just hangout with them because it’s nice to have plans? You should hangout with your friends to unwind and not feel ANY anxiety. Find better/real friends.

Don’t EVER hangout with someone who you feel like you can’t be yourself around. Eventually, you’ll lose sight of who you really are. Always be yourself. If they don’t like it, cut em’ off. You’ll be much happier.

As people said, it sounds like social anxiety. But isn’t introversion and social anxiety kind of knitted together though? I have/used to have both

Been there, done that.
No need to hang out, you and your inner self the strongest bond there is.
Always charging myself when im alone, all these people drain my energy.

Often, but not always. Not all introverts have crippling anxiety in social situations. Not all people with social anxiety actually prefer to be alone.

how is your self esteem? I feel like that too but only cuz I hate myself and think everyone else prob hates me too

Seems like you’re problem is you overthink this and practice might ease it, being an introvert doesn’t explain feeling this bad about hanging out with people

Makes sense. Thanks :)