Me and this girl have been dating for almost 2 months and things are getting serious. But recently found out alot of info. She told me she was in an abusive relationship but didnt tell me they were still talking. I found this out because he messaged me asking for a threesome because apparently he talked with her about it and she liked the idea. She denied it when i asked her but he showed me screenshots of her saying she likes to be single and flirt and different screenshots of them flirting thru text. And he was still taking her to and from work. Admittedly this pissed me off so i called him and cussed him out but she didnt want me to. She claimed to love me and that she only has a trauma bond with him. So she is going no contact with him. Also i almost had to call police on him cuz he found out where i lived and wanted to fight with me. I didnt because of her once again. But now i see in her phone she has atleast 4 30 min to an hour long phone calls with him recently, and texts about how when he blows up in music he wants to fly her out to show how much he changed and she agreed. I really do like her and have strong feelings. And she says the same about me and claims its just a trauma bond. How do i go about discussing this with her?

didn’t read but theyre 100% exploring each other’s bodies

Dump her

You're only 2 months in, cut your losses and get the f*** outta there

she's the one bro marry her

Dump the b**** already nigga, what is all this.

didnt read

end it

if you got any self respect

You have to contemplate on that? Have some respect for yourself man

You're cooked for even asking us in the first place

Break up before you end up like Montoya por favor

"found this out because he messaged me asking for a threesome" i am TEE'ING OFF on that nigga and throwing that girl's s*** out the window LMAO

nigga like me would never make it comfortable enough for a nigga to ask that

Bro shes bad news im sorry

You are dating stolen land, Mr. America!

I called and cussed him out and wanted to fight but she told me not to cuz itll make things worse. But he threatened my mom and pulled up to my apartment somehow and took pic as proof while i was gone

dawg you ain't gotta deal with the stress, get up out of there
she lied to you multiple times already

don't waste your energy trying to fix this

Ur in the paraolympics and at this rate u might win gold

Yea i do feel stupid. During that week they were friends he apparently kissed her but she said she didnt want it and doesn’t really know why she kissed him back. Possibly because of the trauma bond. But she said she loves me and prefers me and only thought of him as a friend and is ready to move on from him

omg i actually read some of this s***. @op block her nigga

she’s still with him, you’re just temporary, and they both know it

either form a throuple or leave

as long as u know someone aint gonna shoot s*** up or seem like they aint the shootin type then imma always fight a nigga that's od'ing like that

but regardless, you def need to drop her bro. ONLY defense is if dude is blackmailing/threating/stalking/guilt tripping her. which he would still need his ass whoop but will make her have benefit of doubt.

that part tho you will have to ask. is he that abusive that he stil is **actually**l abusing her to this day?

that would be the only grace imo.

but yeah, you were right 100 percent to be mad at both.

dont discuss s*** with her cut that stupid b**** off and move forward with your life