Feb 17·editedI was never a 'social butterfly' but at the same time I always appreciated the presence of someone with me, I always liked to talk my problems out with whoever I trust and to get outsider POVs on my issues instead of dwelling over it all alone but ever since the pandemic and the forced isolation in 2020 I had to like start from the ground up with building new relationships and all and the biggest issue is that I kinda indulged in isolation and masking my emotions in public until I can come back home and unload those burdens all alone yet those who know me well can sometimes tell when I'm faking it since I'm not really good at it it's some sort of acquired behavior
but still I can face a bad interaction or an unfortunate event and I end up feeling the need to cave in at home for 3 days until I feel better when maybe all I need is the distraction of the outside world or maybe that interaction isn't that bad to the point where I gotta stay at home or avoid people until I feel better maybe I'm giving it too much of my time and my mind and if I distract myself / talk it out with someone I'll get rid of it forever
So I really want to get rid of that new trait I got and go back to how it was before the pandemic but I feel like distracting myself only makes the actual issue last longer like you leaving the door slightly open instead of shutting it forever and on the other hand opening up has become so awkward to me unless the other person or group I'm with is also opening up about smth and I get self conscious about it too I be thinking like "nah you already opened up about smth else last week stop killing the mood" "they'll think you're depressed maybe u just gotta sleep on it and you'll be fine" "don't be the guy that's always complaining someone else got issues too they just ain't that vocal on it like me" etc etc...
How do I stop that?
Feb 17·1 replydo you listen to other people’s thoughts and feelings? if you do then there’s no reason you can’t express yours.
- OPFeb 17·1 replyBint
do you listen to other people’s thoughts and feelings? if you do then there’s no reason you can’t express yours.
I do, but I hate to feel like I'm the only one currently speaking about their thoughts and feelings for a long time. Me and my friend group are in the same boat for the most part so nothing that I speak out about will be 'unique' to them per-se thus why I feel like I don't have to always be the one speaking out but most of them also deal with their problems on their own it's me who's new to that
- Feb 17·1 replyMaximus
I do, but I hate to feel like I'm the only one currently speaking about their thoughts and feelings for a long time. Me and my friend group are in the same boat for the most part so nothing that I speak out about will be 'unique' to them per-se thus why I feel like I don't have to always be the one speaking out but most of them also deal with their problems on their own it's me who's new to that
i mean i guess it’s quite common for people to talk in a way that goes like ‘do you ever hate it when…’ or ‘have you ever…’, it establishes an exchange so you get to know their view automatically and they get to also talk about it, only it isn’t prying
i don’t know if i’ve fully understood you so apologies if i haven’t
- OPFeb 17Bint
i mean i guess it’s quite common for people to talk in a way that goes like ‘do you ever hate it when…’ or ‘have you ever…’, it establishes an exchange so you get to know their view automatically and they get to also talk about it, only it isn’t prying
i don’t know if i’ve fully understood you so apologies if i haven’t
I feel u but part of me always feels like I shouldn't be the 'touch convo starter' like I always want someone else to start that
Feb 17edge for 48 consecutive hours
Feb 17·1 replyI undrstand i go thru this too. I jst have to picture myself in a few months if i go through with ignoring everybody and staying inside and that picture doesnt look pleasant so i force myself out. And i picture me being miserable and have others see me and that doesnt look pleasant so i will put on an act if i hve to.
Feb 17·2 repliesMalafe back at it again
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Feb 17Yall niggas need to take your threads and send them to a medical professional instead of a forum, respectfully
Feb 17·3 repliesFirst off, salute to you for being real about where you're at. The pandemic threw us all for a loop, flipping our worlds upside down and reshaping how we interact with others and ourselves. It's like we've all been stuck in this extended remix of life nobody asked for. But here's the thing, brother, you recognizing this shift in yourself? That's step one to flipping the script back in your favor.
You mentioned missing the vibe of just being with someone and hashing things out. That's key, man. Connection isn't just about kicking it; it's about sharing those raw, unedited parts of our lives that weigh us down. It's about finding those rare souls who, when the world goes silent, are there to listen to the track of your life, no matter how off-beat it gets.
Now, post-pandemic, we're all kinda like tracks on shuffle, trying to find that rhythm again. But here's a slice of wisdom from someone who's been through the wringer and came out swinging: You gotta start treating these social muscles like you would any other muscle. Flex it, challenge it, rest it, then go again. The more you do it, the stronger it gets.
Feeling like you need to cave after a bad interaction? I get it. But imagine if, instead, you flipped the narrative. What if you saw each interaction, good or bad, as a beat in your life's soundtrack? Not all beats are going to be winners, but each one contributes to the masterpiece that is you.
And about opening up, man, let's cut the track on that thinking right now. You worrying about being 'the guy who's always got something to say'? Forget that noise. Every great story comes from the heart. It's about being real, about sharing the highs and the lows. If your crew can't vibe with that, maybe it's time to get some new friends.
As for the fear of becoming that guy who's always down, remember this: vulnerability isn't weakness. It's the rawest form of strength. It's about owning your story, every part of it, and still standing tall. And trust, those who are really down for you? They'll respect you more for keeping it 100.
So, how do you stop this cycle? Start by opening up, bit by bit. You don't have to spill the whole track at once, just drop a verse and see where it goes. And remember, it's okay to be out of sync sometimes. It's all part of finding your rhythm again.Remember, you're the composer of your life's symphony. It's time to take back the baton and conduct it in a way that's true to you. And who knows? In doing so, you might just inspire someone else to find their beat again, too.
Stay strong, keep pushing, and never forget: the greatest tracks are made up of a mix of notes, some high, some low, but together, they create something unforgettable. You got this, fam.
- Feb 17·1 replyDonEmeritus
First off, salute to you for being real about where you're at. The pandemic threw us all for a loop, flipping our worlds upside down and reshaping how we interact with others and ourselves. It's like we've all been stuck in this extended remix of life nobody asked for. But here's the thing, brother, you recognizing this shift in yourself? That's step one to flipping the script back in your favor.
You mentioned missing the vibe of just being with someone and hashing things out. That's key, man. Connection isn't just about kicking it; it's about sharing those raw, unedited parts of our lives that weigh us down. It's about finding those rare souls who, when the world goes silent, are there to listen to the track of your life, no matter how off-beat it gets.
Now, post-pandemic, we're all kinda like tracks on shuffle, trying to find that rhythm again. But here's a slice of wisdom from someone who's been through the wringer and came out swinging: You gotta start treating these social muscles like you would any other muscle. Flex it, challenge it, rest it, then go again. The more you do it, the stronger it gets.
Feeling like you need to cave after a bad interaction? I get it. But imagine if, instead, you flipped the narrative. What if you saw each interaction, good or bad, as a beat in your life's soundtrack? Not all beats are going to be winners, but each one contributes to the masterpiece that is you.
And about opening up, man, let's cut the track on that thinking right now. You worrying about being 'the guy who's always got something to say'? Forget that noise. Every great story comes from the heart. It's about being real, about sharing the highs and the lows. If your crew can't vibe with that, maybe it's time to get some new friends.
As for the fear of becoming that guy who's always down, remember this: vulnerability isn't weakness. It's the rawest form of strength. It's about owning your story, every part of it, and still standing tall. And trust, those who are really down for you? They'll respect you more for keeping it 100.
So, how do you stop this cycle? Start by opening up, bit by bit. You don't have to spill the whole track at once, just drop a verse and see where it goes. And remember, it's okay to be out of sync sometimes. It's all part of finding your rhythm again.Remember, you're the composer of your life's symphony. It's time to take back the baton and conduct it in a way that's true to you. And who knows? In doing so, you might just inspire someone else to find their beat again, too.
Stay strong, keep pushing, and never forget: the greatest tracks are made up of a mix of notes, some high, some low, but together, they create something unforgettable. You got this, fam.
There’s no way you just wrote all that
- Feb 17HORIZONS
There’s no way you just wrote all that
Been through what he has, it resonated with me deeply. Didn't take long
- OPFeb 17DaParkDog
Malafe back at it again
what's that
- OPFeb 17CutiePieHole
I undrstand i go thru this too. I jst have to picture myself in a few months if i go through with ignoring everybody and staying inside and that picture doesnt look pleasant so i force myself out. And i picture me being miserable and have others see me and that doesnt look pleasant so i will put on an act if i hve to.
that's a good tip thanks
- OPFeb 17DonEmeritus
First off, salute to you for being real about where you're at. The pandemic threw us all for a loop, flipping our worlds upside down and reshaping how we interact with others and ourselves. It's like we've all been stuck in this extended remix of life nobody asked for. But here's the thing, brother, you recognizing this shift in yourself? That's step one to flipping the script back in your favor.
You mentioned missing the vibe of just being with someone and hashing things out. That's key, man. Connection isn't just about kicking it; it's about sharing those raw, unedited parts of our lives that weigh us down. It's about finding those rare souls who, when the world goes silent, are there to listen to the track of your life, no matter how off-beat it gets.
Now, post-pandemic, we're all kinda like tracks on shuffle, trying to find that rhythm again. But here's a slice of wisdom from someone who's been through the wringer and came out swinging: You gotta start treating these social muscles like you would any other muscle. Flex it, challenge it, rest it, then go again. The more you do it, the stronger it gets.
Feeling like you need to cave after a bad interaction? I get it. But imagine if, instead, you flipped the narrative. What if you saw each interaction, good or bad, as a beat in your life's soundtrack? Not all beats are going to be winners, but each one contributes to the masterpiece that is you.
And about opening up, man, let's cut the track on that thinking right now. You worrying about being 'the guy who's always got something to say'? Forget that noise. Every great story comes from the heart. It's about being real, about sharing the highs and the lows. If your crew can't vibe with that, maybe it's time to get some new friends.
As for the fear of becoming that guy who's always down, remember this: vulnerability isn't weakness. It's the rawest form of strength. It's about owning your story, every part of it, and still standing tall. And trust, those who are really down for you? They'll respect you more for keeping it 100.
So, how do you stop this cycle? Start by opening up, bit by bit. You don't have to spill the whole track at once, just drop a verse and see where it goes. And remember, it's okay to be out of sync sometimes. It's all part of finding your rhythm again.Remember, you're the composer of your life's symphony. It's time to take back the baton and conduct it in a way that's true to you. And who knows? In doing so, you might just inspire someone else to find their beat again, too.
Stay strong, keep pushing, and never forget: the greatest tracks are made up of a mix of notes, some high, some low, but together, they create something unforgettable. You got this, fam.
man the way you wrote this stuff is so beautiful I love that example you used and will keep this in my thoughts whenever I'm in that zone again, thanks for caring and actually taking the time to write that
Feb 17·1 replyDaParkDogMalafe back at it again
- OPFeb 17·1 replyfakerickhoodie
what is malafe
who is malafe
where is malafe - Feb 17DonEmeritus
First off, salute to you for being real about where you're at. The pandemic threw us all for a loop, flipping our worlds upside down and reshaping how we interact with others and ourselves. It's like we've all been stuck in this extended remix of life nobody asked for. But here's the thing, brother, you recognizing this shift in yourself? That's step one to flipping the script back in your favor.
You mentioned missing the vibe of just being with someone and hashing things out. That's key, man. Connection isn't just about kicking it; it's about sharing those raw, unedited parts of our lives that weigh us down. It's about finding those rare souls who, when the world goes silent, are there to listen to the track of your life, no matter how off-beat it gets.
Now, post-pandemic, we're all kinda like tracks on shuffle, trying to find that rhythm again. But here's a slice of wisdom from someone who's been through the wringer and came out swinging: You gotta start treating these social muscles like you would any other muscle. Flex it, challenge it, rest it, then go again. The more you do it, the stronger it gets.
Feeling like you need to cave after a bad interaction? I get it. But imagine if, instead, you flipped the narrative. What if you saw each interaction, good or bad, as a beat in your life's soundtrack? Not all beats are going to be winners, but each one contributes to the masterpiece that is you.
And about opening up, man, let's cut the track on that thinking right now. You worrying about being 'the guy who's always got something to say'? Forget that noise. Every great story comes from the heart. It's about being real, about sharing the highs and the lows. If your crew can't vibe with that, maybe it's time to get some new friends.
As for the fear of becoming that guy who's always down, remember this: vulnerability isn't weakness. It's the rawest form of strength. It's about owning your story, every part of it, and still standing tall. And trust, those who are really down for you? They'll respect you more for keeping it 100.
So, how do you stop this cycle? Start by opening up, bit by bit. You don't have to spill the whole track at once, just drop a verse and see where it goes. And remember, it's okay to be out of sync sometimes. It's all part of finding your rhythm again.Remember, you're the composer of your life's symphony. It's time to take back the baton and conduct it in a way that's true to you. And who knows? In doing so, you might just inspire someone else to find their beat again, too.
Stay strong, keep pushing, and never forget: the greatest tracks are made up of a mix of notes, some high, some low, but together, they create something unforgettable. You got this, fam.
crine this beautiful as s***
Feb 17Nothing wrong with chilling
- Feb 17·1 reply
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- Feb 17·1 replyfakerickhoodie
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- Feb 17·1 replyDonEmeritus
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- Feb 17fakerickhoodie
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- Feb 17·edited
@op A little self-promotion but this was a song I made when I decided to get clean and re-evaluate my life. Its a bit avante-garde (went for a chopped and screwed vibe) but the lyrics may resonate with you
Lyrics:
Boom…and the clock stops ticking
Trouble on my mind, I can’t stop thinking
Bout all the times I had while drinking
Faded nights and dirty sprites, my eyes stopped blinkingBlackout…and the lights stop flickin’
White on my nose, this coke be rippin'
Add Adderall, my heart is kickin'
Stimulants and vodka, regret I’m sippin'
Demons on my shoulders, my life is sinkin'
Horrors of my past, my strife be grippin'
Still keep it real but the paint been chippin'
Still keep it real but I ain’t been livin'Need a good girl, these hoes be trippin’
Too many thots I gotta stop kissing’
Tired of this s*** but there aint no quitting’
Ain’t Barry Bonds but I’ll go out swingin'Gotta get clean for God all willin'
Skip the codeine, it aint fulfillin'
Ready for redemption, there ain’t no quittin'
Ready for whatever now Imma start winnin'