I feel like these last few years have flown by and even though I’m still young asf I’m lamenting missed opportunities for relationships and experiences even as recent as 2020,2021…I’ve spent the last 3 years getting my life in order for the most part. I’m finally at a good place in life but I still have so much more to do.

I’ve lived in the same apartment for a few years now and I’ve been holding down a good job for longer than that. I’ve had a serious girlfriend almost a year and a half. Feel like I’m cementing the constants I have in my life which is a good thing but at the same time it makes me feel like I’m doomed to watch my time evaporate and fly by and to feel weighed down by commitments and obligations when I could be spending my youth trying to get random hook ups and traveling and experiencing random experiences, living in different cities etc.

part of me regrets cementing my career and being in a relationship again so young. I love my career and my partner I just wish I could explore my options in the same way other young people in their early 20s do… but I don’t want to disrupt what I’ve built so far either. Having a lot of confusing emotions regarding my life lately & I feel burnt out. I want to do more and be more productive and live a better life but work leaves me so stressed. I get anxious about time that passes by that I feel like I could have used better but I also am kind of content with where I’m at and what I’ve done. Not sure how to shake back & get right mentally / emotionally though

U gotta bop to the top

I've got a question, and I don't mean to offend. Did you grow up kind of rough?

grass is always greener bro

dong forget to appreciate what you already have, you probably spent a lot of time and effort working towards it

grass is always greener man
as someone that has acted on that feeling that youre describing il tell you its not worth destroying what youve built for a temporary high

*grass isn't greener

if what you said was your sentiment

Yeah why

This nigga wanna f*** other hoes so bad lol. Trust me brah its 100% not worth it. Stick with ya girl.you can do dope s*** with her, go travel take a trip

nah he used it correctly

what's being said with that idiom is that the grass always appears to be greener when in fact it is not

Sounds like you need a change of scenery

Move to a new place even if its the same city - if you can afford it and it wont f*** nothing up

Also a vacation could be dope

Most of the stuff yoy mentioned you can still do while in a relationship

he did tho

the saying is "the grass is always greener on the other side"

people always perceive their life as worse than a hypothetical alternative

in reality everything has pros and cons

but the Reality of your situation is always gonna pale in comparison to the Fantasy of what you think is out there

there's a million people who wanna be famous entertainers

and yet, some of the people who end up in that prestigious, desired position end up in despair & some even kill themselves

you don't know what you want til you have it

It is correct

The statement itself is sarcasm as in no it isnt but you might think it is just because its different.

And a saying of saying there is nothing truly better it all has its own issues

While having omagery of you looking over to you neighbors fence thinking its something radically different and special from you

have you told anyone in your life about what you're facing rn?

do you think you'd be happier single?

or maybe its an issue w/ your current partner specifically?

try not to compare your situation to others, but focus intently on what You want for your future self devoid of the input or experiences of other people

We doing a***ogy breakdowns itt

I’ve been seeing so many fire shorties lately and I’ve run into a few at my job and out and about. That’s not the only thing. I also have issues with my girl because she’s super literal and hyper critical and generally is kind of still processing some issues from her childhood. She’s kind of mean to me at times honestly with how critical she is and it seems like she’s never satisfied at times. She’s super strong willed and it’s exhausting sometimes.

Also, on top of all that I’m also still young. I feel weird sometimes in comparison to other people in my age group. Most of them are still figuring s*** out and living whereas I’m a licensed finance professional groomed for corporate environments at this point. It feels weird to me at times cause even though I’ve been working hard for this s*** for many years, i feel like im not in a similar phase of life as most people I meet my age or similar, even though I may relate to them in other ways

Because what you described sounds similar to how I felt in my late teens and early 20s anytime I had stability. I grew up always having to figure things out or survive through tough situations. I realized that I wasn't actually that stressed. It just felt like it had been too long since I had to fight or struggle. I was waiting for something, and part of me was self-sabotaging in a lot of areas in my life to create tension or opportunity for me to feel, I guess I would call it triumph because I was so used to it. It was wild coming to the realization that it's okay for things to be relaxed. I still sometimes have to keep myself from making rash decisions chasing excitement at 30.

I don't know if your situation is at all similar to mine, but it just felt familiar as I was reading it.

Either way, I personally do a 30 minute brain dump everyday. I just write everything in my head down. When I read it back, I can piece together why I'm feeling the way that I'm feeling and understand if it's trauma-based. I've pinpointed a lot of things that I need to work through this way.

Also the full line is "grass is always seems greener on the otherside"

Which means if youre not happy and content with yourself & your life, then you will always think others have something you dont that makes their life seem happier. When really everyone has issues & nothing is truly better nor perfect overall.

Be content with yourself or else you will always look over the fence without getting the full story.

Yeah but the shorthand version is always used in and assumes a sarcastic way so that user is still right and the shorthand version is legit and common as well

I haven’t really although I’ve mentioned it to my mom in passing

I don’t think I’d be happier single because I wouldn’t want to give up the bond I have developed with my partner. She brings me a lot of joy. She also causes me a lot of unnecessary stress sometimes though and makes me feel burdened at times.

You ask me what I want but honestly I’m still caught between focusing on my career and focusing on this relationship or being completely commitment free for the rest of my life and trying to enjoy the rest of my 20s single/ on a self actualizing journey. I learn more towards having my partner,

I don’t want to lose my person. And I can self actualize with her. I just want to remove the stress mostly but I def do have fear of missing out with dating around n s*** now that I’m taken

I'd change jobs/positions then. Lessen the grind/stress.

Good problems

This is exactly how I felt and still feel even though I’m over 30.

After struggling nearly all my life I’ve changed it completely the last 8 years except the city I’m living in.

Now i got day where it feels like I got everything I need and then some days I feel like I could again change everything and leave my current life behind.

Life is strange. We got problems that others which they would have…

Try to go deeper than what you’ve described.

Of course, maybe you want to travel and see the world. Maybe you want to date other girls. But if you don’t want to lose what you’ve got either, then there could be problems inside you.

Home Office, working out, listening/reading books and seeing new friends/ leaving old friends behind, helped me.

It also helped me to talk about nearly everything with my girlfriend.