I usually don’t post in here tbh but really need some advice rn lol.

So my girl went out of town for 2 days to visit her college friend in Chicago. While she was gone I had a couple of my boys over and we got smoke and beer and Hennessy and s***. Anyway we’re turning up, and I got way too f***ed up tbh and I tripped over the fireplace and knocked down here Mother’s urn which was on the fire place mantel. (She was super close with her Mom btw and always likes to look at urn and reminisce and s***) The whole thing fell and cracked on our living room wood floor. I started panicking and vacuumed up the ashes. I got rid of the vase and literally bought the same vase because fortunately it was a generic vase she purchased on Amazon and we share the same Amazon account and I went to our purchase history (she bought it in 2023) and I found the exact same vase/urn thing and ordered it for next day delivery. I opened the urn and filled it with ashes from the fireplace.

It looks identical. It feels the same weight I think with the fireplace ashes. My question is, and this what I’ve been contemplating is should I tell her? I’m not going to I think because she would disown me and be so upset. But idk it’s actually getting to me. Btw I the ashes from I emptied into a a garbage bag and they’re all gone. I feel like a POS ngl

Damn… it’s probably best in the long run to be honest. Short term…. It will be rough

the truth will set you free and if she leaves then that is a consequence you will have to accept
just imagine if this were you you would want your SO to tell you right? dont be selfish

This sounds like a chappelle show skit. But nah you should tell her man. Dont let s*** eat you from inside. She will be hurt but she will understand.

The thing yall don’t get is she is super sensitive and cries a lot over s***. She literally would always look at the urn and touch it. I can’t actually bring myself to tell her man

Nah nigga you gotta tell her, cause if she finds out some way other your lips it's gonna be YOUR ashes in that replacement urn

Wild

If it was me I wouldn’t tell her just to avoid the confrontation because honestly it doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things but if the guilt is too much you might have to tell her man

You should have told her the moment it happened smh

Why didn't you just sweep the ashes up in a dustpan man

talk about sweeping it under the rug huh

lmao

I literally did but with the vaccuum. But idk I was high and drunk and my boy said to just throw everything away.

I mean.. yeah... its her mother
you dont have to tell her today or tomorrow but you have to tell her

Brutal

don't tell her

If your boy's a real nigga he'll let you pin it on him when you tell your girl

Bruhhhh I’ve actually been physically and mentally stressed over this for the last 48 hours . She is going to f***ing freak out.

this is it.

At the end of the day it wasn't intentional. I think for a greater piece of mind for you both if you keep her out of the loop. You seem to be a pretty respectable dude and the fact you give a sh*t speaks volumes on your character.

A lot of dude wouldn't give a f*ck and that would be a poor place to approach the situation from.

No, don't tell her except If she is somehow suspicious by sense, then tell her

If you don't tell her now you'll have a killer bomb to drop if she ever cheats or dumps you

bro

“Now I don’t feel so bad for throwing your dead mothers ashes away” is a crazy nuke

Thread taking a turn, let's be easy now lol