Anyone else get disappointed when you realize someone isn’t what you thought they were?

Not even in a romantic way just like family members, some distant friends, coworkers…

Like idk if I’m making any sense but I’ve caught myself surprised when a cousin I thought I trusted is like kind of bigoted or someone who was once a close friend naturally drifted but has totally changed/acts as if we were never close at all

Thankfully I have several close friends and family members who I know and trust 100p… it’s not like I’m delusional about everyone I meet lmao which is why it’s even more
Confusing when I get ppl I thought I knew wrong

like maybe I just idealize/romanticize people in my head too much? Anyone know how to stop that 🤣 bc I feel like the only way to do so is to never think about other ppl or be a little cynical and that’s just not how I operate

Oddly enough this seems to only really happen w people I sort of know/am getting to know vs. my closest hoes

Again idk if I am making sense sorry for the ramble

All the time, esecsialky as i get older i realize oh they r actually a peace of s***. But luckily i hve started to ween out the s***ters. Its human nature to feel tht way and grow past / realize others are peace of s***. And normal to dwell on what u thought was a good person

Oddly enough this seems to only really happen w people I sort of know/am getting to know vs. my closest hoes

We all project onto others so yes