I feel wrong and guilty if I'm ever upset by someone's actions. I feel like I'M the one who's wrong for reacting and I let it all build up until eventually I explode on someone and they say I'm being hurtful.

But if you had stopped stepping passed my boundaries I wouldn't have even got to that point? Like I can't be vulnerable I default to just trying not to care but it really does suck. I'm forced to be a pushover if I don't want to push everyone away.

What do y'all do in these situations? What's a good way to cope.

Dont cope stop being around s*** people

Have some boundaries too

If someone f***ed your girl would you be upset

Yes

But it's even small s*** like ghosting on me or not being grateful for the s*** I've done that just starts to chip away at my patience.

P****

If your girl was 32 and she had done naked pictures 5 years ago, would u be upset?

I'd be more upset at the chick then the dude though

Lots of people don't get this

I was going to rt but then I read your post and idk wth you on bro.

I'm never sad because I move on quickly and control my emotions very well.

You talking about a self-blaming complex coupled with an inability to express yourself. Gotta work on that

I peeped that.

No, I'd tell her to take it down if she wants to be associated with me otherwise that's a wrap.

I dont understand are you blaming yourself or what

nah op u shouldve hust left it without the edit

Damn you're not so groovy

Where do I even start.

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@op i dunno man u have to kinda talk yourself through what ur feeling and get in touch with your emotions

sounds dumb af writing that but no one knows how u feel and how u react to s*** but u so seems like ur trying to say that you are sad and dont have a good way of expressing it and rationalising it

bcos sad is pretty broad too but clearly u feel some sort of negative emotion and u have to deal with that

and being mad at your girl for having nude pics 5 years ago is not groovy thats none of your business

I feel like it's okay to be annoyed with people ghosting you

It's not the sole reason, just one example of something that bothers me and makes me not want to deal with people

I would not be mad, I wasn't there and it's her body, but if she keeping them up it points more towards her feelings towards the photos and the moment itself; i.e enjoying the attention . If she didn't care she'd have no problem deleting them- the actions speak for themselves.

Is my attention not enough? Can you respect me as a party to compromise? How that make me look if everybody can see what my girl has? I gotta look my friends in the eye after they seen my girl's bare ass n t***. My friend group don't play that. How that make me look in a professional setting if I invite you out and someone recognizes you from p**** spreading pics?

Gotta be wary of that stuff, so you can delete em or make it private or date someone who's cool with that.

yeah the point is that u do have emotions so go deal with them fella

for the ghosting express that s*** tell people u need them more present or ditch them idk i cant solve all ur s***

if u dont want to deal with people then go not deal with them unitl u feel like seeing them again

dam, ok thats complicated you thought this through

at that point u have a responisibility to accept that person as they are and its fair to not want to depending on how public and how well known she is

responsibility to accept doesnt mean continuing a relationship thats up to (hypothetial) you

wait @op that felt a little too well thought thru

u good?

Let's just say I done been there done that

we got love for all my heartbreak homies

Sometimes you can let things slide. But if I feel slighted or disrespected I'm gonna let you know I don't like that s***. And if you do it again we're gonna have to fight.

You have issues.