is moving out selfish? hear me out tho...if like you got siblings and stuff and you take em to school in the mornings sometimes but you feel like moving out, is that considered selfish?

No your life

truuu but it feels awk aF bringing this up w the fam. like how does that conversation even start? how do you even tell em "I can't help w dropping my own brothers & sisters to school in mornings anymore"

in your position, it's complicated

def agree...lmao

I had a friend who was in a similar situation and like i told him ultimately its your life. You can still be big part of your family's life but at the end of the day if you aren't growing you're staying stagnant

Think of alternatives for them because they’re gonna bring it up

Nope.

Edit. After reading bro, make sure your sibilings get their education, that’s bigger than you, their lives and futures are impacted from school attendance. Put your best foot forward for your fam

factually speaking, those aren’t your kids so it’s not your responsibility. being an older sibling doesn’t mean you have to be substitute parent forever. morally though, just consider how much of an issue moving out would actually create and if there’s really no way your folks could work things out without you

been feeling this heavy lately. like I save a lot staying home, but been feeling to expand more in business & as a person, I needa get out there..

If saving money by staying at home will get you to where you want to be faster i would say take advantage and stack up. But if there is no real gain from you saving money in exchange for freedom than set sail my friend

I have a friend who moved out and then moved back in with his folks because he decided to go back to school and with the savings he is using that for tuition and books etc

If the only reason one wants to move out is so they can dodge curfew and have somewhere to bring back hoes then its not well thought out

yep this weighing on me heavy forsure man. I also put my siblings & my entire family first which is why this is such a conflicting thing for me rn

Don't compare your situation with anyone elses man. Your life is your life and its not a race. You do what you feel is right in order to progress in your life. You have well enough saved to put a down payment on a house. You also have enough to find a cool apartment and travel/explore. Its your life live it how you want to live it

damn this one hit hard. you def make a lot of sense. its frustrating because I feel awk bringing up in front of my parents like it's all probably just inside my head too but it feels like they get weird when I bring this subject matter up.

lmao its called growing up theyll get over it

yeah this is the other perspective I also see it as. but it's getting annoying though and I don't want to resent any members of my family at all but I feel it creeping or am paranoid that it is. because honestly sometimes I feel like I can't make certain plans or go out and do certain things because I know I have a responsibility and commitment I have to do for them

I get it, it can be a little selfish but it is what it is

Not ready to move out now but in 2-3 years it’s gonna be weird. I help my parents w a lot of stuff

Edit title to “Is moving out possible anymore?”

That’s a thread once a week

why isnt it possible

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