So I’m 24 and honestly this year made me realize that I’ve never really experienced true friendship for an extended period of time. Closest was probably my relationship but even then the unconditional love I typically see in friendships was there for a short period. I always see these brotherhood and sisterhood experiences of unconditional love, don’t think I’ve really experienced that. Would love to hear stories about your friendships. How they came about and what made the bond so strong?

Fire away

You wanna be friends? ❤️

Same

The grass is greener where you water it

whats worse

never experiencing true friendship or losing it?

i've felt the latter and it sucks

never experiencing it is worse tbh ... all things come to an end, the only thing you keep with you are those experiences

It's overrated

Friends are for the weak

What “brotherhood and sisterhood experiences of unconditional love” have you seen?

Friends supporting their friends in times of need. People who would fight for one another like a brother. Supporting goals, deep conversations. Just overall unconditional love like family. I’ve seen it with my ex, there was one girl that she was friends with and that girl would just do stuff for My ex and not expect anything in return. I’ve seen my ex do the same as well for other people.

think youre expecting a bit too much from your friends

I don’t expect anything from anyone tbh. What does friendship look like for you?

being comfortable being yourselves around each other

I don’t think he is. I think that kind of friendship is definitely rare but it exists and everyone should have it

That sucks tbh, I have a strong squad of great friends, been homies with all of them since high school or earlier and I’m 25 now. My friends are probably the best part of my life.

Honestly I feel like it’s not that rare in college. Granted it’s kind of my fault but yea, man. Idk, feel like I’ve seen it often.

You never know how things are gonna pan out OP i thought i had a lifelong friendship, we were inseperable for like 12 years, then the guy became super religious and cut off al his friends before finally doing the same to me.

As another user said losing a friendship can be worse, really hit me like a break up or a death tbh lol.

Im sure youll find it some day if thats what u want in life tho

Thats how it goes for most people. It becomes harder to find those youthful commited brotherly bonds the older you get.

You not lying lol

But there’s certain lessons you learn and what not from those types of experiences. I’m at a loss when it comes to connecting to people tbh man or just overall things that friends typically experience. The closest was a relationship but even then, we disliked each other and you know how relationships go, it ain’t usually like your friends

It is rare. It is also dependent on your attitude, the way you carry yourself, but also the expectations that you have. I think you have a really pure idea of true friendship, which a lot of people don’t have to begin with. This cool though. Just look for people who you vibe with, connect with about topics and if you get energy from being with a person, and the other person feels the same, then follow up. There must be people surrounding you that would love to hang with you. Try to a***yse your past, what stood in the way of real friendships. Was it that you trusted them too much with things that meant a lot to you, and they broke that? Or was it that people stopped f***ing with you, almost suddenly (then: why?)? Or was it that you didn’t feel a good enough connection to go through with it (then: why?)? Things like that can make you find patterns and if you spot those, you might be able to change them. You seem cool from what I read from you! You’ll def get a good friend.