I'm gonna be honest - I can't deal with the preachy, leadership, always feeling the need to give advice bullshit from my oldest brother sometimes I just be venting sometimes because I want to vent, I'm not asking for advice on what I should do I'm grown now, I don't always need to be reminded about how I'm the youngest

Crine at how they just agree to give you some slack for being the family f*** up

nah im a very successful family f*** up

if i was strung out they'd stilll love me, but def with a lot more shame

it's more so, the world see's me as a success story, and they kinda have a more nuanced view on me, which i really appreciate

ofc my parents do too, but to have younger people who look up to you, while holding you accountable is really a 10/10 feeling

Only child gang here

data collection thread if it hasnt been said already, but my older sibling is my bestfriend, so i disagree

damn. im triggered

This only matter up until college, then when you’re on your own you can just ignore whoever you want if you want.

But yea, having an older sibling when your parents decisions influence your life is annoying. Last impact that had is I had to take out college loans cause my mom paid for my brother and he just dropped out.

Tell me bout it

lol being the oldest sibling is hard because you're given a lot of responsibility and have to be somewhat mature enough to steer your siblings the 'right' way even when its something you're not necessarily against because you don't want to justify your younger sibling doing something that may go bad in the long run. as a younger sibling I empathize with my oldest brother a lot because he's always had to over extend himself in a lot of ways I didn't realize until I got older.

imo you have to foster the relationship independently rather than feel like a certain sibling is best or worst. because from what I've seen a lot of, most of the time sibling discord starts because of the parenting style and behavior of the parents.

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Failed prototype fellas in shambles

My little brother got it wayyyy better than me smh

im glad im not the oldest sibling

I'm the oldest and definitely got into the most trouble, but I think it's mostly because I'm a guy (I got 3 sisters). Thing is with being the oldest is that we often experience things first, I never had anyone tell me how to navigate life I had to figure s*** out on my own

It's good that you can reflect on it though. As a younger sibling, my older brother kinda just rewrites history and doesn't seem to reflect on the way he treated me when we were kids. Since you seem to understand you may have done some f***ed up stuff, and are reflecting on it, you can make things better.

I hope you can one day stop feeling guilty about it and reconcile any issues/trauma with your siblings.

f*** up c***

Im the oldest of 3 brothers. Ask me anything.

I rarely tell my brothers how to act. I used to more as a kid but that was how we were raised and i let that go.

Being oldest was tough in my case

I caught way more of our family drama and kind of protected my brothers from it by mostly engaging in it by myself and healing my wounds all alone

Possibly. I feel older siblings have to mature faster and are expected to act more serious/leader-like.

I do think younger siblings are usually more sociable/swaggy/stylish

Oldest of six checking in. The next oldest and myself were the two worst in terms of behavior. Ironically, we were also the two that were disciplined the hardest.

Thank you fam, I appreciated this post a lot. I hope you and your brother can get to a better place as well.

My big bro was always the leader amongst us, he definitely built different. He ran the streets when he was younger but chilled out once he started a family. My sis is the smartest, she graduated college. I’m the mechanical/hands on type, and lil bro is just a Wild nigga lol