My aunt won a low tier Powerball prize, totaling $1 million. After taxes, it'll go down to like $650k. She was planning a family reunion in Turks and Caicos, covering all costs for the villa. She asked me to help her organize it but some family needs to be excluded from the reunion.

She is planning one big family trip, but I've been advocating to exclude certain family members. Some family members act weird, like only wishing me happy birthday through DMs because they don’t want people they’re close with to know they message me, not speaking to my mother and I in person, and I think it's fair to exclude them from the vacation. Like these cousins saw me at a Christmas event and literally looked down the avoid speaking to me. So atp im like why should they be included in a family reunion? They don’t act like family or show love.

My mom thinks my mindset is ignorant, but I don't want to share a villa with insincere people. Why include those who wouldn't include us in their plans? Am I wrong for pushing to exclude them?

It’s my aunt’s win at the end but I feel a family reunion should only be filled with loving people. I have been trying to make up excuses but she keeps pushing for me to invite people I don’t fw.

Tell all this to your aunt. She should get final decision imo

Pretty much all you can do, express your justified concerns but it’s her call. Enjoy the trip tho

Op finally got a semi win after the universe has been f***ing him over for like a year +.

ur a massive b**** and that is all in ur head. dont be so f***ing petty and learn to appreciate and love ur family. maybe more ppl will talk to u if u grow a pair and start moving like a stand-up guy

are u seeing this!?? dude said he wont invite his cousin cus he dm'ed him happy bday instead of putting it on his story.

oh my god op is a new level of b****.. im sorry

Winning 650k and immediately planning an island vacation..That money ain’t gonna last long

discuss your concerns with your aunt and find a compromise that works for both of you.

It’s not only that. They act weird in person. They’ve always excluded my mother and I from events. Even when I was a kid they would exclude me. It’s not just the Facebook part, but a compilation of their ways that frustrate me

She’s older and just wants to see the family together again. Sadly some family members don’t deserve to attend this trip.

So if some of your family constantly excluded you from vacations, birthdays, and other events, you’d still invite them to a once in a lifetime trip?

have u considered that it's something on ur end that makes them treat u weird..

also how much of that is in ur head? like i don't mean to gaslight im just saying i can sometimes assume the worst of sht and interpret things as "these ppl dont like me", but when i look back on it after I realize I was trippin. How do u know that's not happening here..

yes bruh 1. its not that deep 2. they're family

think of this as ur chance to get to know them better yk

bonding opportunity

You’re right but I have kinda already told her this and she still wants everyone to have the opportunity to go. She is too forgiving. I know it’s not my money but it feels wrong to include certain people

It’s nothing on my end. When I was younger some of my cousins my age would take trips (Disney world, Canada) and they’d exclude me. Then when they got older they kept doing it and eventually felt the need to avoid speaking to me in person. I get what you’re saying but it’s all on their end.

Not your trip and just because they dont like you doesnt mean they dont the others

Tough luck dont be a hater

If I’m helping organize I should have a say in who gets an invite. It’s wrong to feel that way I know but they started this.

I have tried she isn’t considering the way my cousins treated me.

This ain’t the time to be petty

You are not paying for it and its not for you - no

All you are doing is creating more and potentially new issues that can now affect your aunt and others

Just because, for example, a friend asks you to help organize a wedding as the best man doesnt mean you selfishly make it about yourself and exclude the people you personally dont like even tho they still have a connection to the wedders - its not your event nor your "moment"

This isnt about you nor does it have anything to do with you outside of helping your aint who is also graciously invting you as well - when she didnt have to share any money with anyone

Mention it to your aint, but dont be a sneaky b**** that causes issues when no one knows the full scope

They dont like you

And this isnt about you

Get out your feelings, or dont organize/go yourself if you cant be an adult and decent family member about the specific situation

Man up one way or the other - wether to let her know the issues, or take yourself off the organizing/vacation

Stop running and hiding

And its obviously she wants them to be there and celebrate this win as a share with her whole family

Unless someone molested or robbed you it shouldnt be a factor of personal feelings and trying to underhandedly cut someone out

I’d offer to take the money and do all the work for her. Everyone flying spirit and staying in hostels

$1 million or vacation without toxic cousin and he chose the 1 milli