Been tryna get back to eating proper and working out but I realized I just tend to eat lower than I was trying to and avoid food then binge for a day or two idk what 2 do. Im like 183 tryna get to 167 or so rn

I had worse before I used to be so insecure at 15 I’d dream of like literally cutting out the fat in my sides with a knife every day (I was 145lbs 5’11 mins u) but like man stress eating is real I just either love or hate the act of eating rn depending on the day and I’m often bloated and s*** don’t feel good at all every time I eat a lot I feel mad guilty

Same fr 119 lbs for me though

SUSTAINABILITY >> FAST RESULTS

what you describing at best you got body dysmorphia and at worst you got an eating disorder.

The thing with losing weight and fad dieting that be killing the progress all the time is folks tend to start at a level that is literally impossible for them to keep up with consistently that even if at the beginning they stay true to the diet and lose weight, they eventually fall off the wagon and revert back to regular degular s***.

So it makes sense that you "avoid" food but then binge eat a day or 2 later, you just deprived yourself of nutrition and your body/mind is telling you "bro we need to eat now." it's why I personally always hated the "paleo/keto/etc." fad diets because imo all that s*** is doing is jumpstarting eating disorders by how overly restrictive it is.

as someone that has been on this journey for the past 3 years, and rarely uses a scale (I think scales don't help at all mentally tbh. bodies fluctuate too much I think for folks to use that, rather go with how an old pair of pants used to fit on you) what honestly helped me with the process was I stopped thinking about the end results. And also just learning to both be realistic with my self and also learn to love the body that I'm in tbh. Funny thing is after I did that, results started happening lol. And while I don't think I'm at my goal yet (i understand that also might be the dysmorphia talking), it'll be folks I aint seen since college that will be like "yo what have you been doing?" (which still feels very weird as hell, was at a friend's wedding recently and this happened)

Disordered eating is a real thing and it seems your association of shame with eating goes with that. I think if you're really trying to lose weight just start slow and look at what you eat and ask "what can I take out or replace that can be lower in calories and can still fill me up to where I don't feel those hunger pangs later on?" (for me, it was pasta/rice. I made a promise 2 years ago I wasn't gonna ever make pasta or rice in my home again and only eating it whenever I go out. To me that was what made it sustainable, I could still have access to it but only in certain circumstances that I don't often do. That one decision changed a LOT in my diet. And I was able to find a replacement for pasta at home that was literally dumb low in calories.)

Calories in, calories out (CICO)

And also you're gonna snack/eat over calories every now and then, it is ok

you're human. And you're not a robot. That bold really helped me learn "eh, it's not the end of the world" cause guess what? tomorrow is another day to try again.

last thing is weight loss takes time especially if you trying to make it sustainable and not a "I'm going on a trip to the bahamas in a month I need to lose 18 pounds" or a it's December and I'm trying to have my ENTIRE physique change by the beginning of summer type of thing.

You hypothetically "could" do it, but THAT'S not sustainable at all & borderline unhealthy and inevitably you will eat it all back as soon as you lose it.

Sustainability >> Fast Results

You a biological man or woman?
At 5’11” 170 lbs should be good
If you a woman maybe 155 lbs

Does it depend on your mood?

Not rly I think ig if im more insecure it comes back

ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK338301/table/introduction.t1

Mind reading this and check off the ones you think apply? Not a psychologist or psychiatrist but I did, in my time in a ward, speak to many affected by eating disorders

If you think you may have one it is really worth talking to someone

u should take it seriously if u do

that was one of the first things a psychiatrist asked me about when trying to evaluate me

(very obvious thing to say) someone on KTT2 can only extrapolate and guess so much, if you want help to determine if you do have an eating disorder then professional help is the best way

my personal experience of weight loss took me from 250 pounds to now being 176 (I'm 6'4 so I'm kinda skinny now), at my lowest I was 165 and that was eating super clean and doing lots of exercise, I care less about eating perfect and doing heaps of exercise now but I still eat healthy most of the time and am reasonably active, it helped me have clearer skin and fixed some gut issues but I also feel the cold a lot worse

something that helped me was understanding the level of detail I commit to something coincides with the level of accompanying stress and anxiety about it, I try to keep my eating habits as simple as possible so that I don't have to think about it and send myself into a downward spiral thinking about it, I found a way of eating clean (not super restrictive just prioritising food that isn't processed) and I stuck to it and it got me results, I think if you do the same it's a helpful way of looking at it

Best of luck you're a smart person so I trust you will figure it out 🙏

biogical man
my weight goal ya is fine its moreso the habits im worried about

great posts thank u x

will do

try reta

Need cliffnotes version

• "you probably do got eating disorder/body dysmorphia"

• losing weight is a process that takes time and patience if you want to be sustainable

• you see more results the sooner you start to love the body you're already in and just enjoy the journey itself.

• small steps in your diet is better than "fad diets" (e.g. I simply just took pasta/rice out my home cooking and made a promise I wouldnt eat any unless I was going to a restaurant that way it made it sustainable promise as I found a replacement for pasta for home cooking)

• you will inevitably over eat every now and then, it's ok it's not the end of the world and you always have tomorrow to try again.

meal prep so you can measure out and control your calorie consumption

I struggle with this too

10k steps per day or a sport you would play everday

I honestly drink or smoke to ignore my hunger. I eat once a day usually. Its something im tryna work on but i also dont rly care unless im working out

I been struggling with it too since august. The funny thing is my body is in the best shape it’s ever been and looks aesthetically pleasing but I have crazy starves/binges

i second this and also try to eat within the same time frames as much as possible. it’ll help you get into a routine and hopefully stop you from just randomly binging, even if you only eat a little