gbluecheez

4y

You gotta talk to the people she owes money to and then set up some kind of a payment plan/ forbearance and then make sure that someone else can handle the finances going forward. It sounds like she has a compulsive spending problem

My mom has a similar issue and my dad had to totally cut her off. They were able to get back on track luckily but s*** was scary for a while

ALPHABEAR

4y

But this some bs u in OP, sorry you had to experience this. You thought of a GoFundMe or?

Idk, but can’t u sell this lil p**** ahh bird to a private pet shop or?

STILLSUNNY

4y

lmaooo its the second time she had financial issues due to the parrot??

YA ICEMAN ACE

4y

At a certain point you may have to try to disassociate yourself emotionally from the situation, if you feel that being involved with it is detrimental to your own progress and well-being. But like I said in the first post, gotta give it your all and try first. Should sit down with her and help her craft a budget based on her monthly income expenses. Definitely try to help sell a bunch of s*** off for capital if you can get over there anytime soon, before it all gets seized by UHaul.

Experiment626

4y

when OP’s mom bought a $8k parrot I was slightly confused

Mac Wit Da Cheese

4y

Teach the parrot to say “rents due”

Fire Lord

4y

Pay for another month or two for the storage locker

Have mom live in the storage locker

Put her place on Airbnb, make sure you let the guests know they will be staying with an exotic $8000 parrot

Use Airbnb money to pay rent

good boy

4y

My mom is like this financially, drives me crazy

YA ICEMAN ACE

4y

I know everybody wants to get their jokes off but I just want to pop in here to tell you that I feel your pain, man. I grew up with a single mom in Section 8 housing. Beyond not ever making much of an income herself and relying on the people around her / government assistance, she is just completely AWFUL with money management.

She'll spend thousands of dollars on the most random, useless s*** like vintage dolls and random ass cake mixers, often putting it on credit cards, all while begging for handouts from her 93 y/o dad and her close friend to pay her bills for her.

Anyway, I know how frustrating it is to witness that kind of money mismanagement. I would be hesitant to enable her complete and utter disregard for her financial stability by throwing money at the issue, because as you stated that it has happened before, well, it will happen again. And you'll continue paying the price for it while she gets off scott free. It's certainly a tough issue to balance with "well, f***, that's my mom and I want her to be okay" but enabling and bailing her out every time is not the move IMO.

I'd try to have a discussion with her about how to better budget and manage her money. Maybe gift her something like a year of Financial Peace University if she promises to make a budget and watch some of the courses with you. Sell the f***ing parrot. Talk to her about the impact her decisions has on you. To be honest with you people like that are very likely stuck in their ways, but it's good to at least try and not give up hope completely before you've put some effort into helping. Make sure you get everything you might need out of the house and the storage unit, too.

guysplease

4y

Thanks for this. My best friend is also awful with money management and he keeps dragging his close ones in. And I always just want to help. Helps to read your Story

YA ICEMAN ACE

4y

Hey man, no worries! Sorry to hear about your friend's issues - hopefully they get better. I watch a ton of Dave Ramsey videos where he takes calls from people about their financial issues, and those are often traced back to underlying relational or personality issues. It's really interesting. I think it might help you to watch some of them, too. I found a few that he has on the topic of the (very fine) line between helping somebody and enabling them, since you used that verbiage.

@op this might help you out too or at least give you some perspective on other people who are dealing with the same type of s***

Mac Wit Da Cheese

4y

Teach the parrot to say “rents due”

slutforkendrick

4y

i can't imagine someone could have a child and live to see them through to college only to blow everything on a bird twice but if that's really how it is good luck

Niggamortis

4y

That lil nigga better start telling jokes