Obviously a touchy topic but I just thought back to this scenario. He's 4.

We were at the mall shopping and he saw like a princess dress from his favorite movie frozen. I said I'd get him something.

She took him to the dressing room and they tried it on, I thought nothing of it. A little weird but he's just trying on clothes, I used to do that s*** for laughs too as a kid- they're just kids man.

She comes out "He said he thinks he lookes beautiful 🥺. You should get him this gift."

I said fuuuckkk no, not because it's weird, but because he's like WAY too young to be thinking about this s*** and I won't facilitate it. She got pissed at me and said I was being toxic but like I really don't see it that way. Wouldn't talk to me for a week almost.

I said she can get it if she wants but I'm not gonna put that in his head this early in his life and that I didn't think she should either.

Don't matter anyway cause we broke up a few months later (we're on again off again- boutta be on again 👀👀👀) and I think this is a major contributing factor.

Was I wrong? Did I play my cards right? How do you even approach this kinda s***

You’re failing as a stepfather

the kid prob wasn’t thinking of “shit” like u was he just thought the dress was cool lol

Damn OP life must be tough for you

Yeah, you should’ve just bought it.

if it's not your son who gives a f***

should've bot him the dress nigga

ya 4 is too young

too young to be thinking about what? its just clothes

He just thinks its some cool outfit b. Hes young af

That you make such a big deal of it prob made her think youre against transgenders or so

If i found out my girl homophobic or racist i aint gon talk to her again either

I don’t think for the kid it was that deep but understand why you didn’t buy it.

I played w barbies as a 4 year old and I never thought of it as anything but a toy

You were in the right. Ktt is typically extreme left. But if the mom wants to do that on her own time, good on her. But if you’re not about it, def don’t buy the dreas

Well I ain't dating a girl I've been seeing for almost 7 years, who has a son, to not one day make him my son

If I stop f***ing around and choose to marry her (which is my lifelong dream) I'm part of her family

why she askin u to buy him a dress, tf?

Its her kid

lmao

Your not the kid’s stepdad so no obligation

sounds like a personal problem

you failed as a father figure enjoy the rest of your life

the jit not yours nigga

youre honestly adding more energy to this dress than the kid. the kid just likes the dress. your societal connotations for a boy wearing a dress influenced you to not get it for him.

Should support the kid anyway possible smh

definitely in the wrong

This ain’t your kid? And your ex? You don’t owe the kid anything tbh

yeah but he had already told the kid they could get something

it's not like he didn't offer lol

U did the right thing

Right but I don't see toys as that big a deal. Obviously, kids know what boys and girls are.

I played with dolls too, thought nothing of it. But I never really wanted a dress.

He's young and thought it was cool probably, but the societal implications will follow him and I didn't want to throw that on him.

Op said f*** them kids