You are a very non problematic person

How do you resist the desire to say extremely hurtful things to your friends when there is a conflict

that was one of the things, yes.

because i enjoy being around my friends and i would be upset with myself if i hurt their feelings. i value those feelings too much!

I mean yeah me too but in the moment I don't I want to hurt their feelings

So that's what makes it difficult

well, if you hurt their feelings, you’d be damaging your friendship with them. I dont imagine thatd be worth it.

That's true like right now id agree with that

But in the moment I don't care about their feelings and I am willing to throw our entire friendship and history away to hurt them

Which is bad

I also really rock with the idea of being seen as a nice person

Me too that's the like even bigger problem

hm, id give you advice for that but truthfully I dont understand that

I, before somewhat recently, probably would not have understood it either

Thank you nort

maybe everytime you get mean you can make a habit out of saying “sike” right after

of course

Early finally won a VZ

Well my thing is that like 10 minutes after I'm mean I'll be over it and ill realize I was insanely mean and I will try to apologize

Which comes across as crazy

Kdoggy back home in garbage tier but OP not here to update

hm, yeah not sure. I personally dont feel that impulse that you feel in moments of conflict. Like, I wanna just say take a breather and maybe step away for a minute, but I imagine its not that simple.

That's difficult

It's like I have very separate ways of feeling and they conflict kinda

Not like split personalities or anything crazy like that, but like just different ways of thinking and behaving that change suddenly and don't mesh

Perhaps I need therapy

A wise (i assume) tumblr post once said; be the person your pet thinks you are.

I should give people fish

Have you tried finding therapists before?

Noooooo