dawn

1y

Thats powerful, definitely wanna live life with no regrets. I respect and admire that a lot man. You sound like you’re doing it for you. I’m too much of a people pleaser, I always put other ppl’s needs before my own…. one of my worst qualities

Bro0o0ses

1y

There was a girl here no one liked and she could kinda tell so she went around asking people if like people had something against her and no one would tell her but me

And I just told her that we thought she could be pretty annoying

She took the criticism well and we got along a bit better after that

Nort

1y

There’s a guy here who almost certainly has autism or just likes guilty gear just a little too much. He’s not well-liked but we discuss nerdy stuff at length so he’s quickly become one of my favorites.

dawn

1y

Sounds like a real one

dawn

1y

Its a s***ty trait, esp bc this is my only chance at life, so I really wanna try and work on it. Its only one life man, everything I knew will cease

Nort

1y

There’s a guy here who almost certainly has autism or just likes guilty gear just a little too much. He’s not well-liked but we discuss nerdy stuff at length so he’s quickly become one of my favorites.

fuego

1y

honestly though, same man. i give up my needs/wants a lot to help out other people. my mom was like that to a fault so i guess i inherited it.

i learned to be a bit more selfish as i got older but its still a struggle and something i talk about in therapy still, especially when it comes to relationships (platonic and romantic).

Bro0o0ses

1y

This girl said she has autism but like barely idk how that works

I didn't know that until after I informed her that people thought she was annoying

She said it like made her always want to overshare information and be overly helpful by "teaching" things

Was like an hour long rant about how her autism worked and by the end of it the content seemed redundant

But we did get along better after it and I felt a bit bad about how honest I was with her but I think maybe she appreciated it

fuego

1y

just have to take what you wrote (its only one life) and really ingrain it in your brain and try to make your decisions with that at the core

its tough though easy to type it on here but hard to do it every day especially when the options might seem hard/scary/new etc

(also to be fair, not every decision should be prefaced with "yolo" lololol)

Nort

1y

That’s what I’m saying. F*** work, Guilty Gear!!!!

Nort

1y

She probably did. I’m sure it hurt in the moment to hear but in the long run thats life-changing feedback to receive from someone tbh.

dawn

1y

For sure, there’s def a middle ground fr. Just finding it is tough, but I guess we’re growing and changing everyday. Its weird figuring out what your own boundaries are

Bro0o0ses

1y

It didn't help with some of the other employees though

They didn't really care about that explanation and were like "I don't care if you have autism" basically

At that point it seemed mean spirited so I didn't really entertain hating on her after that

Bro0o0ses

1y

It didn't help with some of the other employees though

They didn't really care about that explanation and were like "I don't care if you have autism" basically

At that point it seemed mean spirited so I didn't really entertain hating on her after that

fuego

1y

yeah super weird. im so used to listening to other people set boundaries and adjusting myself to those but its honestly been empowering to start setting my own and holding onto them, although it has caught some people close in my life off guard but in a good way

Bro0o0ses

1y

It didn't help with some of the other employees though

They didn't really care about that explanation and were like "I don't care if you have autism" basically

At that point it seemed mean spirited so I didn't really entertain hating on her after that

dawn

1y

F*** yeah man god for you bro fr i respect tf out of that