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3mo

grandmas are something else man.
when my nan was dying a couple years ago, this woman didnt complain a day in her life and lived a hard ass life.

she was so sick and knew she was going to die and never had a single complaint, negative thing to say, anything. stoic to the end.

older people can be so strong

now my nan thats alive whose 98 ironically is the other way around hahahaha. shes a strong ass person she had 12 kids and all sorts of crazy stuff. but just about like health stuff she gets very anxious and always did before she was older

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good for her!
did she have one at the time she was involved with this?

to do that to a kid is like insane there would have to be literally no other option.
getting one when youre 75 after living a full life is extremely differnt than getting one as a kid

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3mo

They are so good sometimes

Old people are either the best or I can't stand them

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3mo

She did already have one yeah

She was furious the angriest I've ever seen her lol

She got hers as an adult like middle aged

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yeah 100% theres no middle ground

something asian cultures get right is the reverence they have for older people. north american culture really do encourage people to dump their parents/grandparents into homes and stuff and not see them. and have a lot less respect for what old people have to say.

obviusly if theyre racist and awful its different. but people who have lived 80 years have extremely valuable perspectives, i love talking to older people

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3mo

White people are far worse about that type of thing even here

It's odd I don't see it being as much of a thing for other races

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3mo

My grandma is in a home, but it's literally nextdoor to where my brother lives and he visits her daily

It's only because it became literally unsafe for her to live alone basically and she refused to trouble any of us

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that’s wonderful! and yes see thats different. sometimes you NEED homes and people need some help. thats what theyre for.

but you cant put them there and forget about them is what I meant. theres nothing wrong with going into a nursing home if thats what you gotta do!

and thats great too she gets to spend time with more people.
the highest rate of stds is in nursing homes so theres def loads of mingling going on

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3mo

Yucky

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that’s wonderful! and yes see thats different. sometimes you NEED homes and people need some help. thats what theyre for.

but you cant put them there and forget about them is what I meant. theres nothing wrong with going into a nursing home if thats what you gotta do!

and thats great too she gets to spend time with more people.
the highest rate of stds is in nursing homes so theres def loads of mingling going on

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3mo

She has this thing with her brain that causes issues with balancing and stuff so she really can't be alone

And she refuses to just sit and relax so it's too dangerous if she's left to just do what she wants on her own lol she admits it she likes being busy too much

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3mo

If left alone she always thinks up some random project and it's usually way too much for her and requires way too much moving around

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yeah see thats exactly what theyre for. those kind of sitatutions.

and good for her for staying busy and not just giving up and lying in bed all day. gotta have a lot of constitution to do that.

also your brother sees her everyday and lives right next to her which im sure she loves.

is she close to you do you see her often? is this the same grandma that saved you from the colonoscopy bag?

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3mo

She's like 5 ish hours away I don't see her super often just because it's hard to find time with working and stuff

But a couple times a year

I'd love to see her more but it's difficult

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yeah see thats exactly what theyre for. those kind of sitatutions.

and good for her for staying busy and not just giving up and lying in bed all day. gotta have a lot of constitution to do that.

also your brother sees her everyday and lives right next to her which im sure she loves.

is she close to you do you see her often? is this the same grandma that saved you from the colonoscopy bag?

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3mo

Idek my other grandma really

I stopped seeing her and my grandpa when I was like 4

But from what I've heard they are awful

The only grandparent I've really had is my grandma

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oh wow interesting.
and theyre still alive?
do you have any interesting in meeting them you think?

youre grandma sounds wonderful

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3mo

I am honestly not too sure if they are dead

I know literally no one from that side of my family