shut up and let me convince myself mentally why its ok for me not to ever have kids

Peak happiness I’ve ever felt in my life has all been related to my kids , don’t let the barren childfree loons convince you otherwise

im so excited to have kids. its gotta be the craziest experience of all time

v happy you feel like this

Who’s gonna tell him

mpreg butt babies a reality now.

without it we wouldnt have stankie

Exactly

Some of these mfs itt living in fairytale town (happy for them)

S*** is just not the same in 90% of the US

like

ur making $40,000, got a mortgage and a baby otw and can't even grow a full beard yet brah your life is over

There was a Reddit thread recently that was like “40-50 year olds without children, do you regret it?”

And all the answers were some variation of “no, I get to sleep as much as I want, watch whatever I want on tv, go to yoga whenever I want. Life is great”

Like dude, your life sounds absolutely f***ing unimpressive and not childfree exclusive at all. Cope harder

Wym by this

it will definetly be a different life at the very least ill tell u that.

but again if thats what makes u happy then thats fanastic dont let anybody stop u from doing that.

bought a couple more records hehe

basically

A normal part of life is doing things that don’t necessarily make you happy but are either necessary, for the benefit of a loved one, or for the greater good.

Prioritizing your own happiness above all else is a mark of sociopathy and toxic narcissism.

I cannot imagine being 45 and the only thing I have in my life is working and spending money on consumerist crap.

its fine now, becasue its exciting starting a career and setting everything up and having the time and finances to get it lined up.
and i have my parents, friends etc all alive.

but once im middle age with no parents, seeing my friends once a month tops, just totally alone except for someone you marry, which isnt a guarantee. and the only fulfilling thing in your life is buying stuff you cant even share with people.

It sounds like a complete nightmare

yeah im exaggerating a little bit

and I truly do wish them the best

but in all honesty I think it's psychotic to get married before 25 years old at the earliest

learn to live on your own for a little bit, have some personal experiences that you don't have to run by your spouse, develop your perspectives and personality a little

anecdotal, and I mean this in the most loving way possible, but everyone I know who got married early is basically frozen in time

I'll catch up with them and it's like they're the exact same person they were at the end of high school or start of college

ok tbf in that situation as far as dating people. obviously if they dont make you happy, you the benefit of THEM you should break up with them

yeah there are exceptions but you cant pretend that thats not what happens frequently, in small towns.

I don’t necessarily agree but it’s contextually dependent. Like if your partner becomes disabled or sick, you won’t necessarily be happy with them but certainly leaving at that point makes you a gigantic piece of s***.

I would rephrase it to “you shouldn’t be with someone you don’t love”

yes youre right.

and im tlaking about dating people in your 20s, thats the context. everyone healthy, youve been dating for under like 5 years.

not somebody youve been married to for 15 years who has a stroke

Yeah, I mean every situation is unique and it’s hard to generalize

true!

my situations tho, getting out of there was for sure the best outcome for everybody lol

Yeah I would guess so. Few people would be happy with someone who can’t stretch

exactly.

i need somebody who loves me for my au naturel girth

I wish society didn’t groom us to judge everyone sexually. There’s certainly some nature involved in that but it’s overwhelming nurture and social programming.

it def is a lot of nurture and social programming, because you can see how differently peoples judge people sexually in different cultures throughout history

I live in the capital city (of Wales, still...) and I bet the non-uni educated couples with 5 kids in the surrounding areas where there's no prospects are happier than me