I just graduated and got a new job and it's looking like i'm about to make about three times what my mom ever made raising me and my brother by herself

I have a lot of weird feelings about it tbh. I can't rly imagine not having to worry about money as much, or not being able to afford certain things that most people are. Coming back home and seeing my peers from my childhood home still living the same life while i'm climbing the social ladder gives me a lot of mixed feelings

Just curious how others dealt with it because I honestly don't have too many in my direct social environment who are able to relate the same way

fatalism

If you worked and sacrificed for it then you earnt it.

No need to feel a way about it.

This was me since 2021. I alway grew up poor (not like destitute or anything) but after graduating and getting a good job I started making more money than my parents and it felt really weird.

One thing I will say is that you DO get used to it in some ways and you don’t in other ways. Like sometimes I still find myself arbitrarily limiting myself on things. i’ll go to barnes & noble for example and limit myself to one book and then feel guilty if i buy 2-3 books.

As long as you start budgeting, saving, opening CDs, & investing asap you’ll be good though.

I was able to stop touching my tax refunds every year and just put them directly in a HYS that ima move into a CD once it hits 20k

I help out so I'm still poor. not really but really

I cant f***ing save money for the life of me. I have no idea how people making less than 65k are even surviving this economy.

I sacrificed for it but I also had certain advantages that other people around me didn't have.

Money wise, I probably had it slightly worse than most in what was already a low income neighbourhood, but I was raised by a mother who stressed the importance of education as she went to university herself, is extremely selfless, loving and supporting. And had the sheer luck of having a couple of teachers, friends and people I've worked with who saw my potential in my trajectory. That is definitely not the case for most, and who knows where I would be now

That's another thing I wonder how I'm gonna handle being abke to help people around me out. Family dynamics gonna change as well

I earn more than my parents ever did and it happened because my parents invested in me Everything I do is because of them and everything is for them. My mom would use her last penny just to buy me birthday gifts even if she had to struggle paying rent and I felt like s*** I couldn't do the same for her for so many years. She said she didn't mind but I knew it hurt her when I couldn't afford anything in my college days. Now I give her everything she wants. This is such a blessing and finally able to do everything I dreamt of It didn't feel weird at all to make more money than my parents. My parents wanted me and my siblings to make significant more than them.

I couldn't care less about what my childhood friends are doing in their life tho

I don't like to see money as a hereditary status. No one is below me. It's waste of my time to care about other people and their succes or failure for that matter. My family and everyone who helped me to get me to this point are the only ones i owe and I'm making sure we stay blessed

Everyone is different and has their own advantages you made the most use of yours.

Again no shame in that

Got fired from my job now I’m back in it. Don’t know what to do mentally. It’s hard trying to stay positive scraping by. Almost a hopeless feeling.

It’s why I don’t even care how the homeless do d****. Being poor and tryna make ends meet with few dollars can f*** your mental long term. Especially with the high cost of living , employment and housing crisis in America

Smoking meth

It never stops feeling weird

a fool and his money do often part ways, keep that fear alive king my only suggestion on how to proceed. salute to you, make sure to break mom a chunk off often

Real

Determination
Ambition
Defining the unrealistic standards
Having a good family back up
Being wise with money

When u poor u learn to not over value money
So by the time I was grown, I'd be greedy as in don't spend much at all

Suddenly u look to ur bank account after 3 years and see how much it multiplied cause u rarely spend

I also don't ever do vacations

You’re talking like you made it but it doesn’t even sound like you have started the job yet

Stay humble

I signed the contract I'm starting in two weeks bro lol

I can lose it all before I know it for sure tho I know that

if you feel any type of way, you are probably holding yourself to an old standard, of which you need to get rid of.

You will feel guilty. But you will eventually come to the realization that you can never “save them”.

My family is very broke. And I realized no matter what I do, I can never “save them”. I can only help out where I can

Sometimes, my mom will ask me for help to pay something and I will. And whenever I’m home I always pay for what I can. Also, I never accept money from her

But at the end of the day, unless you are a multi millionaire, there’s nothing you can do except help out whenever you can

What you need to get out the way immediately is that you owe people (unless you really do)

You got the answers for yourself first

Only started making real money through my business the past 2 months and ive been struggling with this feeling daily since.

I just feel like I got ‘lucky’ in a way by being around the right people and developing a skill set that allows me to make money and I feel bad about people around me not having something to get there. I work my ass of for it, but I still feel bad

But then again I still have a bunch of debt from student loans & a car accident so theyre probably better off than me realistically even if they make less monthly