Flower

5y

Are the guys who pump up your gas cute?

Old Sport

5y

Sometimes but it's mostly older guys. One time there was a twink who wasn't wearing gloves when it was freezing cold out.. my mom felt bad, she offered to buy him some but he said he doesn't like wearing them. imagine that lol

Flower

5y

lmao guys and their pride. Was he wearing flannel? I keep forgetting it's cold everywhere else.

Old Sport

5y

Right? Lol. He was wearing a windbreaker and had a beanie on

Flower

5y

I would freeze to death in just a windbreaker.
Is Portland really filled with hipsters or is that just a myth and it's more like Downtown SD?

Flower

5y

I would freeze to death in just a windbreaker.
Is Portland really filled with hipsters or is that just a myth and it's more like Downtown SD?

Old Sport

5y

Not a myth lol. Portland has always had hipsters

Flower

5y

YES BUT are they more like bears and twinks or twunks and otters? 😂

Old Sport

5y

It's a mix of everything here

Flower

5y

Before I joined KTT (a loooong time ago) I was dating someone from Oregon. Don't let them get to you with their down to earth attitude. It's too easy to fall in love and so hard to forget them. 😒

Old Sport

5y

TL;DR - Guy I met at the club and had a great time with played me. I'm an emotional wreck.

Idk if you saw or not, but remember when I asked you guys if I should text him? Well it's that guy. Anyway.. I met him at the club a few weeks ago, I think like a Saturday or two before Christmas. He was visiting from LA. I had seen him checking me out from across the bar when he was with his friends. so 30 minutes before the club closed, he finally approached me and sat next to me on the couch. We start getting acquainted then he puts his arm in mine, hands held, with his head on my shoulder.. then we start making out. He asks if I wanna go to his Airbnb to cuddle and hang out or whatever, so we Uber there after we left the club. We had really amazing s***and our chemistry was off the charts. There was some great cuddling and nice music playing.. at times he'd grab my hand and kiss it. He treated me real sweet, and well.. I guess you could say I kinda caught feelings? His charm when we were at the club is what swooped me right in. so after all that was done, he drove me home from Portland (with his rental) and held my hand the entire way. We get to my house and what caught me off guard is that when I went in for a kiss, he dodged it and gave me a quick half hug instead. We exchanged numbers and parted ways. A week later, I come on here and ask you guys if I should text him. So I did. We talked for a bit and then he just stopped replying.. I was the last one to send a text. I figured I would just let it go because I didn't want to seem clingy/needy.

Fast forward to last night (Saturday). I went to the club alone and guess who shows up at my table and surprises me out of nowhere? That's right, him. I turn to my left and there's Joe standing right beside me. That turned my night from melancholy to happy in a split second. So we chat for a minute and he puts his arm around my shoulders, I put mine around his waist. I'm all ecstatic and in disbelief, with a big ass smile on my face.. I said I couldn't believe he was there and that I thought I'd never see him again. I asked him if I was dreaming (A little dramatic, I know. but can you blame me?) but he didn't seem as thrilled to see me as I was him. That's when I knew something was up.. but I should've known better after he stopped replying to my texts. Basically, nothing happened. He walked away and went to the other side of the club (there are two areas. the main club and then a more laid back bar, called the "Rainbow Room"). He curved me hard and left me alone. I didn't see him for the rest of the night. I ended up still being alone but a few different groups of straight women and lesbians came to my table and sat with me. They saw how down I looked so some of them bought me drinks and told me to keep my head up. They said I'm a 8/10 and that's great for straight women's standards, and that I'm gorgeous and very clean with the way I dress. They felt really bad that he did me wrong. I ended up getting drunk and crying in the Uber from the club all the way to my house. Took all my clothes off and threw them on the floor, jumped in my bed and put the comforter over me, started simping and listening to sad s*** for the rest of the night.. then cried some more til I passed out. Do you think he did me wrong? or am I being too over dramatic/sensitive?

Mike2210

5y

Don’t worry bout it fam he belonged to the streets

Old Sport

5y

I wouldn't want to date a guy who's from here tbh

Old Sport

5y

He came crawling back and now he wants to get with me again 🤔

Flower

5y

Wait. What took you there? I think I never asked. Work? I always thought you moved there because of your ex love interest.

Mike2210

5y

Naaah this guys bad news my man. The pattern of behavior u described is straight shows he’s just thirsty. The fact that u like this dude is even worse cause it’ll bite u in the ass down the road. Dump him G

Old Sport

5y

I have family here. but no, wasn't because of a love interest lol. I don't think I'll ever find a guy who is worth doing that for

Flower

5y

I'm sorry. That was rude tbh. I shouldn't have assumed that of you ❤️
Family really is everything or at least to me it's the thing I fall back to because it's so hard to trust other people's intentions if they're not family.

Old Sport

5y

Aw don't be sorry :-) but yeah.. that's definitely true. I'd go to my mom or sister first before anyone else.

Flower

5y

Same. My mom and my lil sis are probably the only family members I can be openly queer around with if that makes sense. I feel like everyone else just sees me as the straight person I used to be and it's annoying how you have to fight that old idea people have of you as a quiet straight guy anyway. Do you talk about your bfs to them?

Old Sport

5y

Yeah that totally makes sense.. I think most gay guys are alike when it comes to that. I've only had one bf but I tend to talk about guys I like with them, they don't mind

Flower

5y

Aww 🥺
I wish I had one long term bf instead of many short term because I think it really f***ed me up and had me wondering if I'll ever be in a long-term relationship with a man. All of my relationships with women have lasted way longer so I dunno if it's me or if men ain't s*** or both since that would include me. 💀 And anyway I don't think I could talk about it to my sis or my mom because they'd just go 'I told you so'. I don't think I'll ever be able to openly talk about bisexuality because too many people conflate it with being a nympho omg I'm talking too much about myself. What's your plan for Saturday? 👀

Old Sport

5y

Well I'm sure you'll find the right guy (or girl) to have a long term relationship with. These days it's way too hard though since everyone is on the apps.. I get what you mean though. When guys run away from me I always question if it's myself that's doing something wrong, but it's not. It's other men. They're insecure with themselves so they treat other guys poorly because of it. It's not you, or me or any other gay man who feels it's themself. Men just simply aren't s*** lol. Not saying they're all bad.. but damn, something's gotta give

Anyway :-) My plan for Saturday is to accept his offer. I'm gonna tell him I like him and that I can't stop thinking about him. Will it be a mistake? who knows, but.. no risk, no reward. right? He obviously likes me if he tried that hard to get my attention and asked me to get with him again last Saturday.. I think he was just frontin when he treated me like nobody and then walked away from me. He knows he wants me

Flower

5y

You get it. Thank you btw. ❤️

Sounds like a plan. It's like whatever, life is too short to overthink it. I would be lying if I said I wouldn't do the same especially a few weeks before Valentine's and he sounds very convincing. 😌 No risk no reward like you said. Just don't turn your BS meter off yet.