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  • Jul 31, 2022

    My last thread for awhile.

    People be justifying why they don’t have a committed relationship by saying all types of s***.

    Talk to mad girls that said:

    “I’m single til I’m married”

    “I don’t need a man”

    “All men are trash”

    “If I’m bored in marriage, I’m out”

    Talk to mad guys that say:

    “Love no thottie” (they talking about good girls too, shawty not promiscuous at all!)

    “Fuck her and ghost her”q

    “Girls be playing niggas”

    “I’m gyalless”

    Seems like both sides are trying not to lose, but not no one is trying to make it work and win.

    Seems like we’re quick to shift blame on others and move on instead of holding it down and working through problems. (Or we stay in toxic relationships but that’s another thread for another day)

    I’m guilty of this too. But, I saw it in my friends, new people and peers as well. My reason is because I’m afraid that people won’t like me once they get to know me. But that’s my s***. Why is this so prevalent?

    Why is it so hard to find true love?

  • Jul 31, 2022
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    lack of vulnerability due to a fear of being hurt

  • Jul 31, 2022

    They scared to get hurt but they ain’t admit it, also, some of these people deadass do not have what it takes to sustain a happy relationship and they tryna dodge that fact

  • Jul 31, 2022
    soapmanwun

    lack of vulnerability due to a fear of being hurt

    Gotta face your fears

  • cold world, get a blanket


    End of Transmission

  • Jul 31, 2022
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    Are you afraid to love

  • Jul 31, 2022
    NakedBalenciaga

    Are you afraid to love

    Me? No. I accept that in order to get love you have to be willing to be vulnerable and get hurt.

  • Jul 31, 2022
    soapmanwun

    lack of vulnerability due to a fear of being hurt

  • Jul 31, 2022

    everybody broken and scarred

    that’s it basically

  • Jul 31, 2022

    Too much work probably

    Alot of games being played

    Mind games

  • sounds like you need more mature friends

  • Jul 31, 2022

    Everyone’s trying to protect themselves from being hurt

  • Jul 31, 2022
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    social media giving me false ideas of what relationship/sex is like

  • Jul 31, 2022

    obviously im afraid

  • Jul 31, 2022
    hot pancakes

    social media giving me false ideas of what relationship/sex is like

    Reminds me of this video

  • We're in a new era lead by Social Media. Most people aren't willing to commit to a relationship nowadays and I can understand that on both sides.

  • Jul 31, 2022
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    Nothing wrong with that.

    Lot of committed relationships fail. In fact most probably do

  • Jul 31, 2022

    Because it’s difficult

  • Jul 31, 2022
    Josk2

    Nothing wrong with that.

    Lot of committed relationships fail. In fact most probably do

    how do u make it last forever

  • Jul 31, 2022
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    Or maybe one partner for life isn't viable for them.

    Maybe we should stop labeling non promiscuous women as "good" girls as if there is something wrong with being promiscuous.

  • Jul 31, 2022

    depends how old you are. this is just common sentiment among college age to mid 20 year olds.

  • Jul 31, 2022

    societal constructs have you feel like you need to be in a relationship in your 20s yet many want to just live life without the responsibility of keeping someone else happy at that age. most 20-30 year olds don’t want that, they just want to live for themselves and enjoy the time they have remaining in their relative youth

  • Jul 31, 2022

    We have access to so much information it creates the illusion that we got many options

  • Echiham 🕰️
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  • Jul 31, 2022

    Underlying anxious/avoidant attachment issues, fear of intimacy, fear of a sense of finality, struggles with decent communication, etc. Lot of it due to unresolved (or hastily resolved) trauma from past experiences leading to an inability to really form and maintain healthy relationships (and not just romantic ones either)