So I thought I was in love, but I guess it was just lust. Still trying to make sense of what happened. Took my girl outta town for her bday, ended up separating.

On our trip, just seeing her body kinda disgusted me ngl. Shes not built like a whale or anything, but she def put on some pounds, and not the good kind. I spoke to her a month ago about the weight, and she might've gone once or twice. But I know how she works out lol. She’ll walk on the treadmill for a mile and call it a day. Thats cool, but you have to constantly do that everyday, or up the intensity. Walking on the treadmill isnt gonna help you, thats what older people do lol.

But anyways, just ultimately felt like we weren't compatible. She’s said hurtful things to me, and played it like a joke. I questioned if she ever really gave a f*** about me, as the majority of the time I’d say something to spark convo and she’d just ignore me lol. Was just unhappy with the relationship tbh.

So am I in the wrong here? I gave her a month to get herself together, she didnt take it serious. I dont like feeling like I’m down bad when I’m with my girl who has rolls on her stomach and wont do anything about it. I dont like feeling down bad cuz my girl doesnt give a s*** about anything I have to say. We only officially were together 6 months, (9 months total) but I’ve learned a LOT during this relationship regarding her and myself. I just hate to see my girl not putting the work in to stay sexy while I’m in the gym 3-4 days out the week

if she says hurtful things to you & you’re not with it & you don’t think you’re compatible, good reason to break up

if she doesn’t lose weight for you in a month & that’s why you broke up, you’re the a******

OP is NOT a chubby chaser!

Seems weird to me that you're more offended at her getting big than saying hurtful things and ignoring you

I mighta known her 'bout a couple of months
Since then she gained a couple of chunks
She went from being a strobe light
To that old lady on Boomerang
Lady Eloise I need no lights
And I swear she a riot folks
How she order all that food and a motherfucking Diet Coke?
He said 'You lying yo, why is you lying yo?'
Cut it out, quit it G, you hurting my kid-i-neys
Naw, she talking bout a couple of kids for me (aww)
She's hinting at a ring from Tiffany's
Right then and there I had an epiphany
I swear since that day I've been treating fat hoes differently

Hook: Kanye West
Aww, I see now
You was hurt and you on the rebound (aww)
Ben & Jerry's and Mickey D's now
And you just gone gain all that weight on me now (naw)
Naw (naw), fall back
If I ain't a player then what the hell you call that?
A nigga disrespect me I'mma be in all black
But baby if you let me I'mma take it all back

OP she’s gonna drop her weight and look hot as f*** and then you’re going to be the one who lost I’ve seen it happen a million times. Should’ve supported your girl through your girl through the ups and downs

She doesn’t owe it to you to be in the kind of shape that you want. Probably best that you broke up if you aren’t willing to be supportive

Its not even just losing weight. If she was at least constantly in the gym, I wouldnt say s***. I know losing weight isnt gonna happen overnight lol. I was picking up the pounds in the early stages of our relationship, but I told myself imma get right.

Giving someone an ultimatum to change their whole health lifestyle in just a month is pretty wild. Maybe the hurtful things she says is a rebuttal to insensitivity & vanity in the relationship

You did the right thing OP, you gave your girl a chance to change but she decided to become lazy

Also, based on how she treated you, breaking up was the best choice.

op is right
king s***

My plan was really to just observe for 2 weeks to see if she went to the gym by herself after our vacation. But I guess she felt I was acting funny and wanted answers.. so after she begged and plead for me to tell her, I caved.

OP can take her bullying him but she puts on a few pounds and he threatens to replace all the doors with these

Fr. And its a lifestyle thing more than a weight thing lol. If you eat out 4-5 days out the week, come home, and just lay around all day, tf you think is gonna happen? Gotta stay active. I tried to support and go to the gym with her, but she needs to want the s*** for herself

yea that’s just a weird ass request

maybe work on whatever insecurities made you think that was okay to ask before you start dating again (not trying to insult you here, that was just a f***ed up reason to break up)

If you don’t like her you don’t like her it’s simple

Nigga, did I say I expected a whole 180 in a month? F*** no, cmon lets be real. I just wanted to see her at least do things differently.

how is wanting your partner to maintain a healthy lifestyle a weird request? bizarre post

i can’t take this post seriously when your profile is based on Lays potato chips

she'll stack it back on once she locks the new man in