been dealing with a lot recently trying to hold down a full time internship for the summer whilst studying for the lsat. it's probably been the most stressful time of my life (factoring in personal s*** that has gone on forever as well as mental health issues).

i've made it really clear to my friends that this sucks for me and that i'm really busy. usually free on the weekends but i've noticed a trend this summer that i'm not really invited to s*** unless i ask what's good. not sure if i'm getting boxed out or they just forgot to hmu because they think i'm always busy but either way it blows and makes me feel like a jerkoff. thinking about confronting them over being s***ty friends but i know that kind of lack of emotional discipline will probably just make me seem needy.

thread is kinda just to vent but if anyone has something to say or any advice hml i guess this feels like s***

maybe you just need more friends that fit the current you. how big is this friend group?

You can talk to your friends about feeling left out in a way that isn't confrontational. Just approach it in a chill way. They may not even realize what they're doing.

If they see you as needy or treat you differently for talking to them about it, might be a sign that they aren't the best group of friends for you right now

Some friends really just suck ass lol

this.

Continue to level up bro. Create a new outlet, it'll be refreshing in the long run. Friends always come n go. Just be there for them.

i've been chilling with my high school friend group a lot more lately, which has been great and they've definitely been much more supportive of the stuff i have going on.

it's like 10 of us in our college group (who i'm talking about in op) and like three of them got girlfriends recently so i kinda get some of the stuff going on, but a lot of the time it feels like i'm just blatantly excluded from group plans.

realistically i'm blessed to have options and probably sound like the biggest b**** ever now. i guess it just really sucks to feel like your friendship isn't even fractionally reciprocated.

i think this is it tbh. just so difficult for me to keep the expectations low. i try to make the way i treat my friends an example for how i would like to be treated but in the end it never really works like that

People just got s*** going on

Covid ruined a lot of friendship

Ain’t your real friends, unless it is the fact that you have told them no a bunch of times before and they got tired of asking just for you to say no

unfortunately not the case otherwise i would actually understand what's good.

Never have to beg to hangout with friends

You deserve better man

The last sentence hits on many levels. At times there is a certain phase I believe we all go through where imbalanced relationships persist. It's not necessarily anyone's fault, just sometimes our paths or mindset aren't on the same vibe

F*** friends

stop hanging out with them if it bothers you that much

when you hit up the groupchat asking what plans are and everyone just leaves it on read

F*** them niggas literally

Who wouldn’t want to invite LurkingDrizzy? You’re like the nicest guy on ktt2

Man I remember one time some of my friends in the group were pressed I didn't wanna go out one night and didn't invite me next time because apparently "I don't go out" even tho I go out every time and mostly organize events

I let them know after that they're one some dumb bullshit because it doesn't take much to invite a friend out even if he says no.

also depends how good of a friends you are

Just talk to them

That's the worst s*** ever, like just say no if you don't wanna go out nobody gonna get mad but at least say it so I can make other plans

ld really gonna be a lawyer life is so crazy lmfao

that sucks though fr. id probably start inviting people over if i were you; if they start ducking that you should probably just move on and try to connect with new ppl as an adult