i’m in like your exact position lmao.
never grounded but living at home obeying rules i find to be stupid
i f***ed around and didn’t save as much as i need to to move out quickly, now im stuck for the next couple months saving up. it really sucks OP, i have yet to figure out a way to live in their space while operating on my own time and schedule completely. its a battle
Bro getting into hijinks and deliquency in his 20s![]()
I’m posting like this in my 30s
I tend to forget to let them know where I'm going and miss curfew. I tell them that I have work but I always forget to tell them when I'll be home. There are times after work where I hang out with friends but I forget to tell my parents that I will.
The last week that it happened, they got so mad at me they ended up locking both of the house doors and I had to sleep in my car for the rest of the night.
Only 2 reasons your parents would do this:
1) they feel you are a detriment to yourself
2) they're batshit insane
Only 2 reasons your parents would do this:
1) they feel you are a detriment to yourself
2) they're batshit insane
I think it's the latter. But it might be an heightened version of concern.
I'm clearly creating a path for my life and making my way through college. If I was a detriment than I would not have taken the opportunities and internships I was given.
i’m in like your exact position lmao.
never grounded but living at home obeying rules i find to be stupid
i f***ed around and didn’t save as much as i need to to move out quickly, now im stuck for the next couple months saving up. it really sucks OP, i have yet to figure out a way to live in their space while operating on my own time and schedule completely. its a battle
Yep that's my obstacle rn
Communication is very important bro, they don't run a hostel, the LEAST you can do is be like "Hey im staying out late with my friends tonight would you mind keeping the door unlocked" it's that easy and just simple respect
yeah but at the same time how they not gonna give bro a housekey like
still living with your parents in your 20s is kinda crazy, now imagine being grounded by them
it's really not, it's only getting more common as capitalism continues to kill itself. i live alone btw
I tend to forget to let them know where I'm going and miss curfew. I tell them that I have work but I always forget to tell them when I'll be home. There are times after work where I hang out with friends but I forget to tell my parents that I will.
The last week that it happened, they got so mad at me they ended up locking both of the house doors and I had to sleep in my car for the rest of the night.
nah that's beyond f***ed up. maybe it's become i come from latino people (afro Cuban basically) but that mindset is crazy to me fam. Idgaf whether you pay rent or not you an adult and they family
yeah but at the same time how they not gonna give bro a housekey like
I agree but different parents have different values and maybe he hasn’t communicated effectively enough why he should have one
But yeah I’d be out, I left home at 16 tho
I agree but different parents have different values and maybe he hasn’t communicated effectively enough why he should have one
But yeah I’d be out, I left home at 16 tho
so did i actually but yeah i think @op needs to put up some boundaries. it dont matter whether it's their roof this is about basic respect and familial love and care
so did i actually but yeah i think @op needs to put up some boundaries. it dont matter whether it's their roof this is about basic respect and familial love and care
Of course, but the fact he ran here first shows me that’s not one of his best skills
Of course, but the fact he ran here first shows me that’s not one of his best skills
Yes and no. I try to tell them how I feel about things but it goes one ear out the other. So, yes I do have trouble communicating with them considering how difficult and frustrating they are. They change goalposts alot.
I guess I'll have to be even more accommodating but I do feel they have a controlling issue.
so did i actually but yeah i think @op needs to put up some boundaries. it dont matter whether it's their roof this is about basic respect and familial love and care
You right
Honestly bro, I think they want you to move out.
Have they always been like this ?
You right
idk the dynamic u got or how they raised you or whatever, but if they can't do that for you that's just abusive imo. if anything it might improve your relationship with them as they start to actually see you as the adult you are the more you assert yourself
Some sheltered americans that clearly have never lived economical hardships itt
The age of moving out is going up in every country in the world
The economy is horrible and the pricing to rent/get a house has shoot thru the roof lately
Yes and no. I try to tell them how I feel about things but it goes one ear out the other. So, yes I do have trouble communicating with them considering how difficult and frustrating they are. They change goalposts alot.
I guess I'll have to be even more accommodating but I do feel they have a controlling issue.
They might, might be time to get 3 roommates and rough it out but I promise you until you live alone you always gotta deal with somebody
Some sheltered americans that clearly have never lived economical hardships itt
The age of moving out is going up in every country in the world
The economy is horrible and the pricing to rent/get a house has shoot thru the roof lately
Moving out dumb anyways
Depending on the families economic situation