yea your issue is def with asian/chinese dining culture/rules more than family style dinners man lol

sukiyaki

u really bout that anime life i c u

If it’s just this way for Chinese families then yea I can’t fw that style specifically. Had me making pecking duck rolls and then getting up to walk to the other side of the room to put it on someone else’s plate.

f***ing dying literally lol

man the peking duck wraps w scallions and that black sauce and a couple slivers of duck skin tho

"slivers of duck skin"

Last two pages 😭😭

😭😭😭😭😭 r u eating w work ppl or family or

Ive only done those dinners w family
But i always look at the menu pick what i want first and other ppl get what they want and we share lol
Like theres a few ppl ordering and some ppl dont care

Or on occasion i order most of the stuff even for the table

Regardless i know i have a few dishes i want

And i just roll the lazy susan around and serve myself when what i want somethinf 😭💀
Like i dont wait for the food to come to me im spinning rhat s*** and ill pause it for ppl if they look like they want aomething

I do pour tea for ppl
But a lot of the banquet style dinners we r in a bao fang and the server is on tea duty
And splitting of like
Soups and fish
So u dont need to do anythinf

I fl it tho
Thats why u need to go to a noodle resto in china for ur own bowl of noodles
Or hotpot
Or like street food
Tbh theres a lot of single person portion places esp for casual lunches

Id literallt eat all the pork belly we can just order more 😭😭😭😭😭 banquet dinners r abundance mindset

Dang

Ya it sound like ur wifes family is just super od

Was she serving ppl? It could be that she really really wanted you to make the absolute craziest best impression on them if thats ur first time meeting them
Then as u grow more close w them itll let up? Unless shes doing that s*** too then GG

Bc if i had my bf do that w my fam i think theyd honestly be confused shocked and unsure how to stop him since no one my mom or dads side is that crazy intense

Another thing is
Do u speak chinese?
That might be a difficult factor
Bc ppl offer to serve me and im like “no nono its REALLY ok i want to save room for xyz :)))” and theyll chuckle completely leave me alone and even sometimes MAKE SURE that when the thing i want comes it spins to me first

And maybe bc im american and mostly, if not fully, theyre just family so theres no expectation to serve anyone except pouring tea which is just polite if your own tea is empty to fill any empty cups

Also idk what part of china is ur fam from bc we eat as dishes come out bc everyone hates cold food

And we will kill the dish if we want to to make space for more stuff
Or even pack it if its rly been sitting

And no one on my moms or dads side smokes or drinks, esp no smoking in the resto
And we rly dont go to places that would even let u smoke

ya the priv rooms w the tables w the spinning lazy susan r called bao fang 包房

Idk i fl bad thats ur only exp w eating in china bc its 99.999% not that way unless i feel like ur literally trying to bribe a government official or taking clients out lol
Aint no way u shld be carrying a piece of food halfway around the room for just a family member

Like regular ppl just go to the beef noodle soup shop down the block or order pizza hut on a takeout app or something lmao

And even the 包房 family dinners or family friends are with ppl that are family that you inherently shouldnt need to spend that much energy bullshitting lmao

I get dinner w my extended family in those rooms w the table family style and if i rly want the half duck ill just say the ducks soooo good its my favorite and ppl will literally keep offering me duck until im genuinely sick of eating it 😭😭😭😭 no shame or weird looks

And i myself probably ordered the duck anyway

One thing you can say if ppl r trying to serve you is to emphatically say “饿哟自己来，自己来，真的自己来”
Bscly: oh no its ok, i can serve myself, its really ok!
Whenever someone tries to serve you and theyll stop after the second time
And then if ur rly over it
“饿哟自己来，我们都是亲戚，大家自己来吧”
bscly: oh no its ok, i can serve myself—we’re all family here, lets each serve ourselves
And the response should be like “yes yes we’re all relatives here, we’re all relatives here” and ppl will chill tf out

Basically u gotta rizz the room

But overall ya im not carrying a chicken wing acdoss the room to give to someone else j bc so i hear ur frustration

Im j rly tryna rally for chinese food n bao fang meals bc chinese foods so good
And bao fang meals r like a buffet where u can try anything and just eat what u want

Ya 😭😭😭 hopefully next time she can like speak on ur behalf to dispell the bullshit bc i think it wldvr rly helped if u spoke chinese bc theres defs some key phrases ppl say to make ppl chill out w the servinf back and forth and getting more food they want lol

😭 it sucks u cant bc then u cant rly ward off that energy for urself

But its probs bc u also just got married then and she wants to make a insanely good impression
I dont see a 6 hour dinner happening otherwise lol nor any of the other bullshit
Ur not bribing a gov official
But ur wife probablt wanted to bribe her family n fam friends into strong positivity towards u
Esp if they were really adamant abt her marrying chinese
She probably was over compensating

that the best part tbh

It probably is

Had a craving for some Oreo Smash ice cream today

For dinner tonight, bought some Pretzel Burger Buns

And in the process, made some homemade hamburgers, potato wedges, and crispy Chicken gizzards

:​ :​ :​

Potato wedges f***ing rock

now if they could get wingstop ranch