Are you still mean

How did you realize that you were mean

How did you stop being mean

I don't just mean like doing something mean, but I mean like just generally being a mean person

i remember i was like 7 and a older girl from school was high fiving everyone in my class and i got scared to high five and instead said a joke that i heard from drake and josh or something that goes like like hey your pretty pretty ugly then she ran and cried away with her friends chasing i was so confused with what happened like why did she run away then never said anything like that ever again

This doesn't sound mean

You were just trying to tell a joke

That's not mean

Very nice person actually. Just insensitive, lack empathy, and do not care about the problems of others.

I’m nice tho I’m rarely mean to people and I was never really a bully.

Yeah op u are mean

U are deleting serious comments from the thread without reason, f*** u

Dude you just wrote "no" then your other post was just asking if I deleted the first one

Post the full version of what you're gonna post and it won't get deleted

i was never a mean person i just had mean moments

I've recently, like within the last 3 months, have made the shift to becoming mean

And I dislike it

Im not sure what caused this. Before this I was always pretty nice I think, or at least most of the time I was. Now I catch myself being casually mean and saying mean things quite often. Being a real bitter grump or being super judgmental.

This has ruined my relationship with any of the few friends I had, coworkers, even most of my internet friends. It has also caused me to make a horrible first impression for multiple people.

Mean Nexi 😡

What a pointless reply

Yes

I do this too btw

self awareness is the first step

Ok but like what is the next one

realizing what moments trigger you into actin like a mean person/saying mean things

you’re usually pretty apologetic ab it maybe just try filtering if u can

This is good advice I think.

I think I have a bad habit of like assuming someone's intent

Like someone will say something that annoys me or offends me and in my head its like "well they must have been trying to do that"

But like that could easily not be something they were trying to do at all

But then like ill still hold a grudge over it and find myself being mean to them over it

just try and think before you speak, and realize that u dont know everything ab people or their intents or whats happening w em yk? basically just treat ppl the way u wanna be treated yfm

just bc u’ve been mean before doesnt mean u gotta be that 4ever, 2023 new year new u

I’ve slipped into one at times. Out of insecurity, fear. Like I have to fight back, even though I’m the only one swinging. Or even letting a bitterness about myself or the world leech into my tone, even when I’m careful with my words. Moving with love first has given me the most peace, and attracted other people who do the same. It’s so hard to always do that though, I think I’ll be practicing it forever

if you consider being blunt mean, otherwise i was only mean to people i saw belittle others

Yeah and I regret it but my peers egged on the behavior

Yes, to someone on this site....

yes, i was middle school girl mean
i regret it all the time

Had a fling a bit with this girl who had broken up with someone from this site. I know he took the break up hard, and would post threads about her but he was annoying af and she was in the city so it just happened. Dude had posted about all the things she liked so it was easy to bag if I'm being honest. Don't feel proud now.

I've changed now tho

nope