Until you get into a serious, long-term, and healthy relationship, or at least one what was healthy for most of it, you don't even realize how much of dating is just in your own head.
Other people are naturally inclined to seek out sexual and romantic intimacy. In order for you to be truly incapable of attracting anybody from the desired gender you either have to be deformed, dress like you are legitimately homeless or have AI for a brain, severely mentally handicapped, lack any kind of hygiene, or truly incapable of healthy socialization with the desired sex/gender. If you don't tick off any of those boxes, you will find somebody to date if you give it a chance and keep an open mind. Our species is engineered to do this, it's not that complicated.
And then, once you fall in love and allat, you realize that all of these traits very much matter in a relationship too, not just as a means to find a relationship. They honestly matter way more in relationships, it's what keeps the connection going once the honeymoon phase is over.
You truly need to be a fully-formed, decent human being if you want someone to feel safe enough to let you put your genitals inside of them, let alone getting pregnant by you. Y'all need more empathy, and you develop that by connecting with people socially and going out into the world.
Rant over. Free game. You can do it.
agree with all your posts itt
thread is about the guys who do the work on themselves with the expectation women will start flocking to them. you need to do the work for YOU, not for anyone else. nobody “deserves” a romantic relationship, you just enter one manually.
"X group of people doesn't deserve access to a basic human right enjoyed by every living creature in history" - see how it sounds when I rephrase it like that? What a f***ing bizarre thing to say.
found a guy who sees women as sexual objects
"Losers"
yes, men who think being well-mannered will land them romantic partners are losers.
This too but in order to get a hobby you have to talk lol.
you don't have to talk to gamble money on prizepicks.
im a recluse who plays guitar a lottt of hobbies can be practiced in a room by yourself im sure u know that
unless I misunderstood what you were saying
It was honestly crazy to me when I found out niggas was googling how to get women, or watching pick up artist content, have some f***in self respect gentlemen
Treat ppl like ppl, get a hobby, and build connections, stop thinking you’re owed p**** because you’re nice
Nice don’t mean s***
yes, men who think being well-mannered will land them romantic partners are losers.
Uh yea if u think simply being a good person will get u p**** thats dumb
The problem with this thread is being a good person is still a good trait to have if u want to find love. It doesnt guarentee anything but its still a great thing to espouse
This thread has a underlying implication that theres no correlation between being a good person and getting girls which is dumb regardless if its true or not
The solution is:
Going to therapy
Finding ways to channel pent up sexual energy/frustration into creative or athletic pursuits in order to blow off steam without immediately linking doing so with sex/sexual intimacy
Making friends, including women friends. Women become demystified when you just accept friendship from them, let alone seeking it out
Picking up some hobbies besides video games. Stuff that can give you skills and stuff to talk about irl
Get a full-time job if you don't have one, and ideally go to postsecondary school of some kind if you have the means to do so. If not no problem, but get a full-time job.
The goal isn't to do all of these things in order to find someone, but to do them in order to create a system of support and self-fortitude while you're single, that you continue to engage with when you're in a relationship
The solution is stop being thirsty as f***
It was honestly crazy to me when I found out niggas was googling how to get women, or watching pick up artist content, have some f***in self respect gentlemen
Treat ppl like ppl, get a hobby, and build connections, stop thinking you’re owed p**** because you’re nice
Nice don’t mean s***
Ok yea if someone is googling how to get girls theyre a lost cause
Insertcoolnamehere basically clapped this thread by saying "just talk" like thats pretty much it lol
And even ugly dudes can get girls if they have personality
U don’t really even make platonic friends by just being a good noodle so idk why folks think that would apply to dating lol
/thread
the more important question is: what is up with anyone expecting men to contribute to society, without the incentive/hope of them finding a romantic partner?
It's really just holding a damn convo and being interested in the person more than you are of yourself. Listen more than you talk. Alot of dudes I know try to make themselves "viable" by doing/saying s*** that does not matter to anyone but their all male friend group.
Tbh i firmly believe at this point most people 30 and under are autistic and don't know it. even the ppl who think they aren't. The art of conversation is low-key dead. Ppl seem to talk at each other more than ever and don't really understand unspoken social cues in general. Not just relationship wise.
The real black pill is that some folks will just have to acquiesce to the randomness of life. You aren’t owed anything. You aren’t owed a relationship, romantic or platonic.
There may be things you can do to increase your chances (style, money, hygiene etc) but nothing really matters other than being in the right place at the right time, and the other party deciding that they find you attractive. There is nothing you can “do” to “get” a relationship specifically, and it doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with the kind of person you are.
Rapists get relationships. Broke niggas get relationships . Homeless niggas get relationships. Boring niggas get relationships. Nerds get relationships. Abusive niggas get relationships. Kind people get relationships. Exciting people get relationships. Niggas with bad hygiene get relationships. People who are social, kind and decent can easily remain a virgin up into their thirties.
Almost all of this s*** is random.
Literally, all you can do is present yourself to luck and hope it swings your way. But no one is entitled to anything, no matter what a person does
How they think jobs are gotten
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My girl loves me cause I’m a good boy