How to deal with people that have bpd(borderline personality disorder). I swear it’s like their hot n cold af at all times (not temperature wise but like emotionally) and they’re super wish washy and completely snap at the smallest s*** s*** is stressful how to handle it

The more you think about it, the scarier it gets. Try to distract yourself with work, hobbies, tv, religion and sex.

bit of a bumper sticker but yes

Then that means you don't value their time as much, you know they'll still be there or if you don't think that, then you don't care about them as much at all. Maybe find someone who you'd enjoy talking to rather then feeling like forced to respond and then pushing it back a few days

Are they getting help since that is a mental illness? and in what context do you deal with em? parent? sibling? co worker?

so what the f*** u want our advice for?

Damn spot on yeah I need to value them more it’s on me 💯

use to be this girl i dated few years ago (on n off for like a year; she would leave n come back every few months, the provlem (i think mosty at least) is whple time we dated we only f***ed once (cuz i was too p**** to initiate lol) and then we recently came friends again, we f***ed like 2x and then i kinda had a meltdown one my friends committed suicide (we came out as bi to each other and he was tryna f*** and i said nah only person im tryna f*** is this girl, and he left my hpuse to go drive 6 hours to get with his ex but she had blocked him and then he ran barefoot into traffic on the highway) , and so i had a meltdown and she found all the d**** in my room (peep my threads lmaooo) and she helped me get checled into rehab. But now she wont even respond to me about giving me a tattoo (she in training) and i been waitin like 2 months for it and she said she wluld do it and so i wasted hella time i coulda been had the s*** done . But so its obvious she not fw right now so imma just leave her alone for now i guess and she knows how to contsct me when she ready. But basically im worried that if i f*** any other girls then my friend basicslly died for no reason cuz i rejected him. Bro this s*** got me so f***ed up im so confjsed what to do

@op you a good man

My man you are being way too hard on yourself. YOU are not the reason your friend died, you were true to yourself and for that, you are 100% in the right. You gotta slowly learn to move on and not internalize what you couldn't control in the past. Maybe therapy might help you with that, there are alot of free resources out there.
if you get time grab this book. you just gotta take baby steps to letting things go you can't control, whether that's anger and grief, feeling like you need the attention of someone, wanting to do something that you can't control, etc. hopefully this helped a lil

thank u man I appreciate u takin time to write that out n helpin. Imma look for a pdf of the book n try to read it soon. i really don’t be lookin for attention from any body except this one shorty and that’s why it gets me so f***ed up. and I kno for fact she like me to, we ain’t speak in over 2 years and she got a caricature of me n her from when we dated hanging on the wall her apartment like imma just work on myself and get back to my goals an s*** like that tho. and I’m in a whole diff state from her now anyway so i guess it’ll be whatever for a while. ill find a baddie that’s actually down one these days thank u bro

perfect man that's what I really wanted to hear you say, you probs miss talkin to her and all that stuff then jus miss her.. when you find a new ting it'll be much more healthy for you, take it day by day for now

Yea that’s what I’m tryna do. I made a hinge n tinder the other day and bra all these shorties look mad boring and already had one try to set me up bra I hate this s*** for real. but anyway any recommends on how to meet just friends? I’m bored af got no one to talk to or hang with at all. Stuck in the f***in house wanna kms