As you grow older, it's normal that the people around you start having their own lives and be busy with school, work, a partner or whatever.

Recently I've noticed that I'm hanging out and going out a lot less and it's mainly because myself and my core group of friends have less time to do so. I always only had a small social circle and some of them moved away and others we just don't see each other that often.

I kinda get lonely sometimes because of this. Especially since I am the one often initiating s*** but it just gets tiring you know?

How is it for you guys?

Feel like i've gotten distant with my close friends thru my college days because i never hit them up and they think i've been gone fully anti social or something but in reality i just prefer to spend the majority of the free time (that i have available) by myself these days

I haven’t stuck with a good circle of friends until about 2018, and we ain’t slowing down.

I’m 21.

never

Last year

Eventually i got used to not see them everyday, as long as it’s because we’re busy and not because we’re are a bunch of lazy f***s i feel like its ok

But the fear of growing up + not seeing people as much as you used to will cause anxiety with some people and they’ll have a hard time dealing with it, ive seen a lot of beef happen cause of that

End of 2017 precisely

22

I definitely had that anxiety before.

I like to spend most of my free time alone aswell since I'm heavily introverted and need the space, but hanging out on the weekends with friends regularly was a good balance back in the day when I was younger. Kinda miss that.

Ion consider these ppl my "friends" they're just ppl i went to school w and i just so happen tolerate to an extent.. im truly at peace when im alone tbh ion mind being around ppl but i want to spend my time doing things i want and that doesnt include loafing around. Besides ion learn anything being around them so dealing w them is rather pointless

I would say it started in my early-mid 20s. 3 of my close friends had children so we naturally started hanging out less. Tbh I've just changed my social circle to childless friends and we still go out a lot & travel the country despite being 25 & up.

This age PRECISELY

How hard/easy was it for you to find new friends?

Ehh i've felt alone all my life(10+) even when im amongst people, just learn to enjoy ur own company nd it'll get better

If they a real friendo they gonna be in your life forever regardless of the changing waves and seasons of life.

It’s just when you hit 21, the people around start to show you in more blatant ways if they are someone you WANT or NEED around your life.

They aren't necessarily new friends. I've known them since high school but I do end up making lots of new acquaintances through them with whom I travel with also.

It's easy for me to meet new people because everyone always brings around other acquaintances I've never met and we just mesh well. We keep in contact through social media. I've also hung out with people from work by inviting them out. I personally am much more social now than I was as a teen or early 20s.

Work

Well, when we all got jobs.

Tbh all you need is a gf. Theyre harder to get but they keep you more company often. When i had a girl i really didnt need my friends at all

its crazy but if you went to college after hs or took classes in a school setting you are constantly meeting new people and have tons of free time to hang out

no one prepares you for the loneliness you encounter after school entering the real world.

that’s why i don’t understand when people get FOMO from social media after seeing other people having a night out at the club or something. that s*** isn’t even fun to me lol

real

when i went to university because all of us got busier

but i also moves out the country

and our friendship still strong

A gf solves your loneliness but when yall done you back to lonely lmao having strong friendships and youll never be alone