I just had a hour long convo with a DJ who's been getting some success in my town. He's doing the dj life full time now as his career. I interviewed him for some research for my freelance goals next year.

His one piece of advice was to do favors without expecting anything in return. Being nice in general and makes friends to help the community out.

I have no problem making friends, but I get a weird feeling trying to follow that advice. I know I can't make friends with everyone and I can't do everything for free. So of course naturally I have to choose friends or people I want to connect with.

But sitting down and thinking about it afterwards it feels like work. And it feels like I have to hide that I want something which again is the opposite of the advice I received.

So idk if I'm just naturally not friendly as I think I am or that I got a lot social energy bar. Anyone else relate or figure out this problem before?

What he told you isn’t just a key to networking it’s also a great way to navigate life

It’s too hard to decipher the phony’s from the real.

It’s good to be selfless in the sense that you give and don’t expect to receive anything

You’ll be happier, probably get over things quicker etc.

I don’t mean have people constantly do you wrong and just be their lacky

But you should treat everyone with the same upmost respect until you do find out that they are s***ty

Gotcha. I guess I got to meditate a lil more to get out of the shell I grew over covid break. And think more positive when meeting people