Obviously almost everyone would choose to be both but if you could only pick one, what would you choose and why?

Think about Kobe Bryant or Michael Jordan. On the court, they were relentless, pushing themselves and their teammates to greatness. Off the court, it was complicated. Their intensity wasn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but their respect levels? Off the charts.

I think I’d pick respected

Respected. It’s a mutual agreement between real ones

I feel like choosing to be liked over respected is generally the wrong choice but think about how much you can accomplish in life if you are liked? All the random opportunities that would come just cause people like you?

Also, I think if you are liked, there’s a hint of respect in there. I don’t think separating them is possible. Same if you are respected but not liked, if you are respected, you’re are probably liked to a degree (especially if you have haters). Like think about musicians who are respected (Kanye, MJ) but not liked. The people that DO like them probably love them, not just like them

Being respected gets you more career and business opportunities.

the last one is better

Respected so easily, people can like you a lot & still feel like they can take advantage of you/ people can admire you without ‘liking’ you per say

Niccolo Machiavelli - "It is better to be feared than to be loved, if one cannot be both"

How do you not respect someone you like?

depends on how you view davidp

Absolutely get where you’re coming from. But I have a friend that is super fun to be around, life of the party, funny and what not. Hanging out with them is a blast. But when it comes to career stuff, they’ve got zero ambition, no real goals, just kind of floating through life.

Now, liking them isn’t the issue. They’re great for a good time and some laughs. But when we talk respect, especially in a career context, it’s a different ballgame. You respect someone who’s got drive, someone who hustles for their goals, someone who’s passionate about what they do or at least is striving to find that passion.

IMO, you can totally enjoy someone’s company, think they’re a great person to chill with, but still find yourself wishing they’d find some direction or ambition.

Which one gets me the most likes on ktt

Money, power, respect. That last one is better

Now these you can't separate. Unless you're a lottery winner or trust fund baby.

Between strangers and coworkers, respect is a lot more important. Friends are people who like and respect you

You're hitting on some real truths here. Being liked does open doors—networking becomes easier, opportunities seem to pop up out of nowhere, and let's be real, life's just smoother when people are inclined to give you the benefit of the doubt. And yeah, if folks like you, it often means there’s at least a baseline of respect for you as a person, for your vibe or how you treat others.

But I still think being liked and respected don't always happen at the same time. Being liked is often about personality, your energy, how you make people feel. It's personal. Respect, though, especially in professional realms or in the context of achievements, can be about what you do, your talent, even if your personality might not gel with everyone.

Another example, I'm a surgical resident and there are attending surgeons that are f***ing awful to be around, make everyone feel like s*** but damn are they good at what they do. When you're in the operating room, their presence alone can change the atmosphere.

Na you’re right. I’ve experienced both being respected and not liked as well as being liked and not respected. I think I preferred being respected and not liked.

I mean it’s a bit of a silly question ain’t it.

If everyone in the world respected you but no one liked you, life would be a pretty lonely experience. On the flip side if no one respected what you had to say and walked all over you, would being liked by everyone even mean anything?

Obviously in a work setting we’re there to make money not friends so respect means more. And I’m not going to get in a fight with some stranger for not liking me.

But outside of being a career boy, I’d rather my friends like me and I’d rather like being around them. That’s why we’re friends after all. We enjoy each other’s company and humor. And I value my friendships more than my position in a soulless corporation.

Like/respect aren’t mutually exclusive though.

But the biggest thing is you can earn respect. If people don’t like you, you can’t just make them like you without changing who you are and then at that point how much self respect are you really holding onto?

So I’ll say like

Feel like deep down, MJ And Prince respected each other but their dislike for each other made them competitive. Being well-liked opens doors and opportunities but being respected means your abilities speak for themselves and in a sense, your competency makes you more undeniable that way.

somehow Im not a respectable guy I dont think people respect me at all tbh probably cause thats how it is when youre surrounded by people who are always older than you by a huge margin so I wouldnt even know how it feels like to be respected lmfao

So I would pick liked since I wouldnt even know what to do with respect ngl

liked

i respectfully think outside of the workplace respect and like are very very similar things that 99% of the times line up with one another, so liked.

like someone cant like you but not respect you imo. that is s*** you see in like movies with archrivals and s***.

nah I think its like parental relationship. Not saying that parents dont respect their kids at all but theres is definitely alot more "liked" than "respect" in the equation.
Or similarly a teacher/mentor type of situation