Why comment if you’re not going to read it and respond in earnest lol

Then again I guess we can all do whatever we want when it comes down to it

This doesn’t sound that abnormal I think plenty of people only make time and enjoy being with those close few.

Just because you’re good at talking to people and social doesn’t make you an “extrovert” even if you get labeled as such. (Low key hate those terms now) I can relate to that bit about being capable but not wanting to put forth energy.

nah fr, this is what the video I linked rly hits on. we make a million assumptions about a person on sight, and it warps our whole experience of reality.
you can choose to see things differently op.

I think you need to get out of your own head a bit respectfully and force yourself to interact with more people tbh. Even if part of what you’re saying can be valid thru your own experiences it’s also extreme to write off slot of people based off preconceived notions. You’ll miss a lot of experiences and interactions.

Saying this because I can relate to what you’re saying.

Yeah it’s always interesting how some people view others and don’t think they have depth lmao

Sums it all up pretty well
reddit.com/r/Adulting/comments/14vpbf6/i_dont_think_i_have_depression_i_just_think_being/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1

Sorry.

idk most ppl just care ab dumb s*** i have no interest in

^thats a member since 23 type post if i ever seen one

Honestly though I think this is only truly unhealthy if you’re not cognizant of it. If you can be self aware enough to realize this is where you’re at, you’re not too far gone. I feel pretty similarly but you just gotta hold the two contradictory truths in tandem:

A) People are largely dysfunctional and have an innate capacity to hurt or piss people off, often without even knowing it

B) You have that same capacity and dysfunction because you’re part of that group, but you know you are capable of being decent & even “good” - others must therefore be capable of the same

Bro you gotta ditch that pessimism it’s not good for you. You can learn from anyone even if it’s a 5 minute conversation. But that pessimism is going to keep you from taking anything positive away from those small/‘meaningless’ encounters.

ppl itt tryna shame u or change ur mind have no clue lol some ppl are just wired differently and that’s ok

even if all u learned from a mf was patience, they were still a teacher yfm

And it ain’t even like I’m one of them loner mfs, I’m one of those dudes whose chill, good looking, well connected, funny, well respected. I get love and know a lot of of different people. People tend to see me as a leader because they know I don’t depend on their opinions for my self esteem/I stand on what I believe.

Yes even those uncomfortable conversations where you feel like you’re on a different planet than the other person can be growing experiences.

Personally I’d be one sheltered mf without rednecks teaching me outdoorsy s*** despite the fact I can’t stand 9/10 of the s*** they do/talk about

Coming from somebody who struggles with feeling empathy and generally feeling dissatisfied with most people since childhood, work on it.

Learning social norms as somebody who feels separate from it all made it a lot easier to mimic, mask, and charm.

Now, I border on sociopathy when I interact with most people because I struggle to connect with them genuinely.

It's not fun not being able to empathize with your own girlfriend or family. It's not fun to be irritated by the mere presence of somebody else. Try to breathe and embrace reality for what it is.

Were you angry all the time when you were younger?

I'm not gonna read all this respectfully to save myself sometime and we've had different convos before actually, all I will say is yea it's more likely than not just you

tbh, first thing that popped in my mind though he is an unaware domestic abuse victim and bringing it up in a joking manner won't really help him acknowlege/get passed it.

@op please go seek some professional help, even if it's going to an AA meeting, find a space besides the internet to really process what you're feeling

surround urself with more girls, they are enjoyable to hang out with

@op ngl i think ur attitude on this is rlly common

whats the last time u heard someone talking abt how they sincerely like the general population lol

Little bit of both?

Idk man enjoy your peace, theres nothing wrong with that. Just dont be preemptively rude to people expecting the worst from them. (Not saying you do that btw I just know from experience that its a easy trap to fall in.) “Most people” is still limited and defined by your perspective which will constantly change over time.

Adding social media to the mix makes this whole conversation even more confusing because it causally puts on display some of our worst traits as people that in most cases would never see the light of day. Overexposure to that side of humanity could definitely and justifiably lead to some bitterness and distrust.

Time with your close circle is good and should be treated as a reminder of how “good” people can be as opposed to how “bad” others can, imo

I kinda felt similar in HS

One thing that changed my mind was playing poker. You spend hours with people you wouldn't otherwise and see sides that you wouldn't normally

I'd also advise generalizing less, people are extraordinarily variable

Real. The most annoying kid in my middle school taught me important lessons about group dynamics and power structures

Both things can and probably are true