My narcissistic dad has hurt me a lot emotionally throughout my life (I'm 22)
We have a very strained relationship mostly because of him, He doesn't want to understand My lifestyle or my past anger as much as he thinks he does.

For example, I was very angry when he left my family 2 years ago, I wasn't a good person, I was drinking to cope. My mom tells my dad in the midst of their divorce about this and he drives over after abandoning me and my family and he gets in my face and punches me. I took one and calmed myself but he hit me again

I punched back and ended up pushing him against the couch and beating on his rib area until my mom told me to stop.

Now I am okay, I forgive him, He's kind of s***ty but he's my dad but there is so much tension coming from him when I'm with him .

he'll get jealous acting like a b**** due to the fact I spend way more time with my mom (Whom I have issues with as well BUT My mom is the more emotionally unstable parent AND I go over there because she has my siblings 95% of the time. My dad has them over every other weekend and tends to not be flexible with that)
I just feel like having a distant relationship is all I can have with him which doesn't mean I don't care for him but He's burned those bridges with his choices to abandon his family for a new woman.
consciously I've forgiven him but the person he is now is just detrimental to me.

What brought me to making this thread is that I occasionally have dreams that my Dad does something selfish and terrible and In the dream I just snap and Punch him
But It wakes me up because the emotion is so intense I throw a soft punch in reality and hit my headboard or wall or some s***

So I'm just trying to figure if I'm alright or not you know, Is this s*** still subconsciously affecting me?

"I throw a soft punch in reality and hit my headboard or wall or some s***"

But seriously, I think a distant relationship is gonna be the easiest and probably best thing. I also think trying to go to lunch or something once a month might help as yall will get some conversation going. But like you said, he doesn't want to understand you so that may not work just like everything else.

I don't know what I'd do myself. I know I would end up forgiving him like you said, but idk where to go after that.

I remember I was with my ex in the midst of my Dad leaving us. And In the middle of the night I had a dream where I punched my dad. In reality I woke both of us up because I punched the wall next to me hard enough to bruise my knuckle.
I felt so bad like god damn, Thank god I wasn't facing my gf or I woulda socked tf out of her

Please god stop posting these type of threads about race on this site of all places

this is not a black male dad issue

its just a personal issue that pertains to YOU and YOUR father

a white ktt user could literally post this exact same story and it wouldnt change a damn thing

change the title

Nah I'm a black male so it is a black male dad issue. Not changing s***

Seconded. Its weird to title your thread black male when its a universal problem unless you just preface everything in your life with "black male".

This is why we need a black only sxn.

Boo hoo, sad story
Black American dad story

Black male takin a piss
Black male ate some pasta last night
Black male bought some chips

My hope died with the amount of lowkey racist interactions I’ve had on here

Me and my Dads issues all come from him having extreeeme OCD

Reminds me of my grandpa and my uncles

The only problem is verification which could get problematic (for liteskinned/pale skinned mixed ppl)

Other than that, I don't see why they keep denying a sxn.

Ive always wondered is the founder of KTT white?

One parent rule. If either parent is black you're black. That's how Ive always seen it and more or less how its enforced in the US at least. Black comes in a variety of skin tones that's no way to judge anyone.

People can say whatever they want, how would they prove they're Black

Someone might not want to share a photo of their parents.

How would it be verified that the section is only compromised of Black people

Yea tbh, need a black section for s*** like this

Hair test is reliable