Can Men Actually Have Friends That Are Women?

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  • Apr 18
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    Experiment626

    Maybe but would my girl want me to have close friends that are other women?

    most likely not

    This is so weird to me

    I got multiple close friends that are women, my girl has multiple close friends that are guys. Neither of us care at all.

    Is it really this hard for some people to have platonic relationships?

  • Not ‘friends’ but acquaintances yes

  • Apr 18
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    Vlonely

    This is so weird to me

    I got multiple close friends that are women, my girl has multiple close friends that are guys. Neither of us care at all.

    Is it really this hard for some people to have platonic relationships?

    One of you will eventually. It’s how life goes

  • Apr 18
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    Bushmanate

    One of you will eventually. It’s how life goes

    Why? We've been together for 2.5 years moving in together after our leases are up. You think we will end up being less secure with each other as time goes? That doesn't make sense

  • Apr 18
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    Vlonely

    Why? We've been together for 2.5 years moving in together after our leases are up. You think we will end up being less secure with each other as time goes? That doesn't make sense

    Living together changes a lot of things

  • Apr 18
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    Vlonely

    This is so weird to me

    I got multiple close friends that are women, my girl has multiple close friends that are guys. Neither of us care at all.

    Is it really this hard for some people to have platonic relationships?

    Unfortunately for number of people a platonic relationship with the opposite s***doesn’t work

    One of the parties eventually ends up catching feelings, 9 out of 10 times being the guy

  • Apr 18
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    Female friends ain’t for me. I just can’t vibe with them like men. Plus I find them horrible for my mental health as someone who has trauma with them so I stay away from them

  • I think you can have female friends without wanting to f***. That said, I think most guys would not turn down the coochie if their female friends tried to throw it on them.

  • of course but even reading through this thread people aren’t totally honest about the qualifying aspects of a lot of female/male relationships, I ain’t hanging out with anyone my girls not comfortable with at the end of the day lol

  • Clipaveli The Don

    Female friends ain’t for me. I just can’t vibe with them like men. Plus I find them horrible for my mental health as someone who has trauma with them so I stay away from them

    Pause

  • Apr 18
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    Vlonely

    Why? We've been together for 2.5 years moving in together after our leases are up. You think we will end up being less secure with each other as time goes? That doesn't make sense

    Trust me lol

    Brother I was in a 2 year relationship both of us were insecure by the end of it.

    I’m not wishing it doesn’t pan out for you but trust me one of you will end up worse off

  • Marcus

    Living together changes a lot of things

    Also this. It ain’t like living with randoms

  • easily

  • You can normalize nearly anything with words my fren

  • Bushmanate

    Trust me lol

    Brother I was in a 2 year relationship both of us were insecure by the end of it.

    I’m not wishing it doesn’t pan out for you but trust me one of you will end up worse off

    This is something people don't want to admit, even if the friend of the opposite s***isn't particularly a "threat" sooner or later it leads to trouble down the road.

    All I'm saying is the opposite s***friendships during a relationship creates unnecessary stress. People underestimate the amount of guys who'd be willingly orbit around your girl no matter what.

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    There are many women I get along with in my life. I know them through work, through school, through church or some other context. However, whenever we engage it's always within a specific context. We don't schedule a time and place to hang out alone. Alone time outside of the aforementioned contexts is something I reserve for women who have a romantic interest in me/that I have a romantic interest in.

    If I know from the start that a woman only wants to have me as her platonic male friend that she can hang out with alone then I will respectfully have to decline. We can get along and have fun at school or work or whichever context it is, but I will not invest time, money or energy into her on my free time if the end goal is just a friendship that I can already get from the friends and family I already have.

    I may think she's cool and we may have great fun at work or school but I also have to consider what kind of signal I be sending when I'm out with her, a girl that I am not romantically involved with - every other person who sees me with her is going to assume that we are dating - in other words I'd be blocking myself from the women who actually want me in a romantic way.

    Also, I do not want to have a roster of female friends that I hang out with alone to interfere with the woman I am actually going to be with and eventually marry.

  • Chilla

    There are many women I get along with in my life. I know them through work, through school, through church or some other context. However, whenever we engage it's always within a specific context. We don't schedule a time and place to hang out alone. Alone time outside of the aforementioned contexts is something I reserve for women who have a romantic interest in me/that I have a romantic interest in.

    If I know from the start that a woman only wants to have me as her platonic male friend that she can hang out with alone then I will respectfully have to decline. We can get along and have fun at school or work or whichever context it is, but I will not invest time, money or energy into her on my free time if the end goal is just a friendship that I can already get from the friends and family I already have.

    I may think she's cool and we may have great fun at work or school but I also have to consider what kind of signal I be sending when I'm out with her, a girl that I am not romantically involved with - every other person who sees me with her is going to assume that we are dating - in other words I'd be blocking myself from the women who actually want me in a romantic way.

    Also, I do not want to have a roster of female friends that I hang out with alone to interfere with the woman I am actually going to be with and eventually marry.

    Said perfectly

  • Apr 18
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    Chilla

    There are many women I get along with in my life. I know them through work, through school, through church or some other context. However, whenever we engage it's always within a specific context. We don't schedule a time and place to hang out alone. Alone time outside of the aforementioned contexts is something I reserve for women who have a romantic interest in me/that I have a romantic interest in.

    If I know from the start that a woman only wants to have me as her platonic male friend that she can hang out with alone then I will respectfully have to decline. We can get along and have fun at school or work or whichever context it is, but I will not invest time, money or energy into her on my free time if the end goal is just a friendship that I can already get from the friends and family I already have.

    I may think she's cool and we may have great fun at work or school but I also have to consider what kind of signal I be sending when I'm out with her, a girl that I am not romantically involved with - every other person who sees me with her is going to assume that we are dating - in other words I'd be blocking myself from the women who actually want me in a romantic way.

    Also, I do not want to have a roster of female friends that I hang out with alone to interfere with the woman I am actually going to be with and eventually marry.

    Best post itt

  • Apr 19
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    Bushmanate

    Trust me lol

    Brother I was in a 2 year relationship both of us were insecure by the end of it.

    I’m not wishing it doesn’t pan out for you but trust me one of you will end up worse off

    No offense but that sounds like a bad relationship. If yall became increasingly insecure that the other would cheat on you the longer you were together, that s*** was probably doomed.

    Sounds backwards to me

  • Vlonely

    No offense but that sounds like a bad relationship. If yall became increasingly insecure that the other would cheat on you the longer you were together, that s*** was probably doomed.

    Sounds backwards to me

    Happens to most people in long term relationships brother. Good luck to you

  • u dont got motion like that lil bro

  • Apr 19
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    Noir

    I will admit that I'm getting pickier with age

    After one failed marriage, unless the person is just right, I'm good just focusing on my career. I've been either at work or at band practice 75% of the time lately anyway

    Yeah sounds like you're killing it

  • Apr 19
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    panocha princess

    can’t speak for men but personally, i don’t see the point in having irl male friends. anything a man can give me platonically is something my partner gives me better. besides, u show a bit of compassion and let him be vulnerable with u things usually get weird.

    that being said i don’t have irl female friends either, i just talk to my sisters.

    Ooof

  • Apr 19
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    Elric

    Ooof

    we already had an interaction about this bruh why are u quoting me again 💀

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