I was chilling with this chick last week and we went and got some food, vibed at the crib, talked about our different interests, all that. I matched with her on a dating app & had known her from like a year and some change before, from going to the same college before covid shut my campus down.

We were gonna go see this movie this week and I really enjoyed myself when we linked for the first time last week. I texted her/ called her a few times over the last week with no response and and she finally texted me back yesterday. I said what’s up when we going to see that movie and she said she doesn’t think we should hang any more, I came on too strong when we chilled, and it made her very uncomfortable. I tried to kiss her when we were chilling and she wasn’t with it so we just cuddled and played this card game she showed me.

I didn’t really try anything after that because I saw she didn’t wanna kiss and I’m not going to force myself on her if she doesn’t want to kiss. Literally just had my arm around her and we were talking & vibing.

I feel wierd though because we even made plans while she was leaving on the first link so it’s like…why didn’t she voice that she was uncomfortable? And if she felt so wierd after I tried to kiss her, why even stay for an hour plus more after that and hang out and talk with me ? I don’t get it. I don’t know how to feel because I thought we had a really great time hanging out. I wish she would have said something. Now I feel like a jerk but at the same time It’s like, I’m a guy you matched with on a dating app. Do you expect me to make no moves or something? Am I supposed to be the passive best friend? Am I wrong for making a move?

If she wasn’t interested in me in that way why even come over knowing I’m putting out those vibes her way?

Ik I might get hate but I want real advice on this. I think maybe I moved too quick because I’m used to women moving quick with me but I just idk, I’m confused. I try to make sure the women I date feel comfortable and safe w me so idk how to feel.

Don't need to see username or Avi off title alone.

Ctrl + F “vibe”
Ctrl + F “chill”

I’ve had a woman go from completely head over heels for me one day to not even responding to me the next. It’s part of the game. More than likely an ex got back in the picture

This is what aziz ansari did and he got me too’d

I’ll pray for you bro

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Based on the way OP moves, he should consider himself lucky if he never catches a case or gets exposed on social media

this part of the game can be therapy-inducing

gotta have an experienced, strong heart to deal wit it on a constant basis

I mean bro I might be a man w**** or whatever but I also do care that my partners or any girls I see are comfortable and that we are on the same page. I apologized to her and told her I didn’t realize she was uncomfortable and that it wasn’t my intentions.

Consent and boundaries are important to me because I’m not a piece of s***

She was being nice by sticking around a little longer after you tried to kiss her

I swear y’all can’t read the room at all

The game is cold and heartless. One of the biggest things I’ve learned from my time being single is to not take things so personally. Sometimes that’s just the way it goes. More than likely if a person would do that to you it’s not someone you’d want anyways. Stay strong tho always fam

If you come onto somebody and they decline best course of action is to apologize then end all physical contact unless they tell you not to.

This is how I’m going to move from now on. I figured she just didn’t want to kiss AT THAT MOMENT. She didn’t move away from me or take my hand from around her after that so I thought everything was good.

Nah this horse s*** cause a girl once said she didn't want to have s***and just hang out but when we went to get Wendy's she started cuddling on me and we made out and f***ed

Then she said she didn't like the s***we had in her car and she wasn't feeling like we were gonna be good and then she let me pipe on her bday and said I was raw at s***
It got old so we stopped talking randomly. Some times people be stupid, my advise is just don't even bother entertaining people like this

You know that you aren't on some f*** s*** but the girl you're with doesn't know that. Unfortunately because of how other men act, women have to be on guard and are hesitant to reject us because some men can react in an aggressive way when a woman turns them down That's the only way I can explain the flakey s*** they pull sometimes

That doesn’t mean anything man. Some girls ain’t trying to be intimate in that way on the first hang out

Honestly, be different from other guys and hold out on trying to touch her on the first date. S*** is a power move

I let the women make the moves first tbh

..we talking about two different girls here

Nah I'm going to take my single, individual experience and use it to generalize all females regardless of circumstance sorry

I'm over here still trying to get the girl I asked out over a month ago to let me know when she's free for the date Like why say yes at all and waste my time with "I'll let you know when I'm free" if you know you're not willing to go out with me